08/20/2026
I feel like with postpartum mental health being in the news more lately, we need to talk about postpartum OCD.
I personally experienced it, and one of the hardest parts was being told that my checking was “normal.”
Because honestly? It didn’t make me feel better.
OCD doesn’t always begin with something completely irrational.
Sometimes it takes a tiny kernel of truth “Babies are vulnerable.” “Something could happen.” “I need to make sure they’re okay.” and then your brain runs with it.
You check.
Then you check again.
Then you think, “But what if I missed something?”
You have a fear, and suddenly your brain can produce incredibly vivid images of the thing you’re afraid of happening.
The fear can feel completely outrageous to you and still feel terrifyingly real.
And the more exhausted you are, the harder it can be to step out of the loop. Sleep deprivation can make intrusive thoughts, anxiety, and compulsive behaviors feel even more intense.
This is one of the reasons postpartum OCD can be so confusing.
You may know logically that the thought doesn't make sense.
You may even be horrified that you had the thought in the first place.
But OCD isn't asking, “Is this likely?”
It's asking, “Can you be 100% certain?”
And because you can never get 100% certainty, the checking continues.
And just to put postpartum mental health into perspective: postpartum mood disorders are more common than gestational diabetes. Yet we talk about glucose testing and prenatal appointments far more openly than we talk about what happens inside a new parent's brain.
So if you’re postpartum and you’re constantly checking, researching, seeking reassurance, avoiding certain things because of intrusive fears, or feeling terrified by thoughts or images you don’t want to have…
Please know that you aren't a bad parent.
You aren't secretly dangerous because your brain produced a scary thought.
And you don't have to keep checking until you finally feel certain.
Postpartum OCD is real. It is treatable. And you deserve someone who knows the difference between a normal new-parent worry and an OCD cycle. 🤍