05/20/2026
New episode is live! 🎙️
Have you ever felt stuck in the same argument, the same distance, the same pattern that just never changes?
This week I'm joined by Megan Secrest, LCSW — couples therapist, EMDR certified, and one of my favorite people to talk shop with — and we are getting into it.
We dig into Terry Real's five losing strategies from The New Rules of Marriage, walk through Megan's viral post "10 Fantastic Ways to Get Less of What You Want in Your Relationships," and talk about what's actually happening underneath the patterns that push people away — and what to do instead.
Spoiler: needing to be right, controlling, shutting down, retaliating, withdrawing — these aren't character flaws. They're strategies. Losing ones. And we all use them.
This one is for anyone in a relationship of any kind. You don't have to be in crisis for it to be useful.
🎧 Listen here: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2499943/episodes/19204193
Or find it wherever you listen to podcasts — search Let's Sit With This.
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