05/28/2026
Maybe your baby has colic, reflux, poor sleep, clicking, gas, feeding aversions, or painful feeds.
You finally make it to an appointment hoping for answers.
But because your baby is gaining weight, your providers breathe a sigh of relief.
And don’t get me wrong—weight gain is important.
❌ But gaining weight and feeding well are not always the same thing.
Some babies are gaining weight despite feeding dysfunction, not because feeding is efficient.
Some babies are gaining weight because their mom has an over supply or their parents are spending over an hour per feeding each day. They’re triple feeding. Pumping after every session. Offering supplemental bottles. Contact napping because baby can’t settle. Tracking every ounce. Doing everything in their power to keep their baby growing.
The scale shows a thriving baby.
What the scale doesn’t show is the parent spending their entire day feeding.
It doesn’t show the baby who takes an hour to finish a feed.
It doesn’t show the pain, frustration, exhaustion, reflux, coughing, clicking, leaking milk, or constant compensation happening behind the scenes.
Weight gain is important.
But it should never be the only question we ask.
A baby can gain weight and still deserve support.
A parent can be succeeding and still need help.
Sometimes the most important question isn’t, “Is baby gaining weight?”
It’s, “What is it costing this family to make that happen?”