10/27/2026
“Give them a real smile!”
“They’re talking to you - look at them!”
“Give Grandma a hug!”
“Show them what you learned in school!”
These are common phrases that a child may hear on a regular basis. At first glance, they feel normal, expected. They are statements made with the intention of guiding children to cultivate relationships, communicate with others, and develop manners. Those are important skills that should be encouraged, but with nuance. As an adult, many of us would not react kindly to being expected to demonstrate these abilities for others, whether we want to or not. There’s nothing inherently wrong with encouraging children to practice manners or engage with others. But when those requests become constant expectations, without room for a child’s comfort or preferences, the experience can begin to feel less like learning and more like performing.
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“Give them a real smile!”“They’re talking to you - look at them!”“Give Grandma a hug!” “Show them what you learned in school!” These are common phrases that a child may hear on a regular basis. At first glance, they feel normal, expected. They are statements made with the intention...