06/14/2026
It’s true that our loved ones can have a tendency to push our most sensitive buttons and without the risk of getting fired or losing a promotion it’s easy to have unfiltered reactions to it..
What we have to realize though is that there are still consequences to how we react to and treat our loved ones and that it is not always a given that our relationships will bounce back with understanding and acceptance. Even if they do, do you really believe your boss, coworkers and customers deserve gentler and kinder treatment than your spouse, children, or parents?
The bottom line is that we need to be self-aware and mindful of the respect all of our relationships are owed and stop being on our best behavior only for the ones that result in a physical paycheck.
If you’re able to bring your best self to the job then you can activate that rational, calm, gentle, understanding, team-playing person at will (even at home). If you can get your needs met at work without lashing out, slamming doors, giving the silent treatment, or other unfiltered self-expression, you can find that balance anywhere else.
It’s a nice concept to think that at home we’ll be loved and accepted for all that we are without holding much of anything back and that our family “gets us” enough to not take our unfiltered negative emotions too personally, but that concept can only go so far from theory to application. If we’re not careful, we can really hurt, frighten, and let down the ones we love most.
It’s important that we start taking these consequences just as seriously as we take the ones at work.
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