07/21/2026
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You don’t attract abusive people because there’s something wrong with you.
You were never shown what healthy love looked like.
You grew up without someone consistently protecting you, teaching you your worth, and reminding you that you are a son or daughter made in the image of God.
When that happens, your view of yourself and your view of other people become distorted.
You may begin to believe that love has to be earned.
That disrespect is normal.
That your needs don’t matter.
That chaos feels like chemistry.
That being chosen is more important than being cherished.
Abusive people often look for those whose boundaries have been weakened by years of neglect, shame, manipulation, or fear. Not because you deserve abuse, but because you’ve spent so long believing you had to tolerate what should never have been acceptable.
Your younger self learned to survive.
Now your adult self has the opportunity to heal.
Healing means learning to recognize red flags instead of explaining them away.
It means believing “no” is a complete sentence.
It means discovering that peace is healthier than intensity.
Most importantly, it means accepting the love of a good Father who has always declared your worth.
When you begin to see yourself the way God sees you, you stop settling for relationships that require you to abandon yourself.
You are not an object to be used.
You are not disposable.
You are deeply loved, worthy of protection, and created for relationships marked by truth, safety, mutual honor, and sacrificial love.
Today can be the day the cycle ends.
Not because you become perfect, but because you finally begin believing what God has always said about you.
“See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God.” — 1 John 3:1
