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It’s Domestic Violence Awareness Month.Sometimes a person is emotionally discarded by a partner long before a relationsh...
10/16/2026

It’s Domestic Violence Awareness Month.

Sometimes a person is emotionally discarded by a partner long before a relationship ends.

One of the more confusing patterns in emotionally abusive relationships occurs when a partner withdraws love, affection, respect, and emotional connection—but refuses to acknowledge or address what is happening. The relationship continues, but genuine partnership disappears.

One person may experience:

* Stonewalling and prolonged silence.
* Repeated dismissal of their feelings and concerns.
* Withholding affection, intimacy, and emotional connection.
* Contempt, criticism, and humiliation.
* Refusal to discuss problems or participate in meaningful repair.
* Financial control or other behaviors that make leaving difficult.

Meanwhile, the other partner keeps trying.

Asking questions. Initiating conversations. Suggesting counseling. Expressing hurt. Hoping for change. Asking for information.

They are still in the relationship, but increasingly feel as though they no longer matter. And sometimes, that is precisely how power and control are maintained.

The partner withdraws emotionally while continuing to benefit from the stability, labor, resources, and responsibilities the relationship provides.

This is different from ordinary emotional disconnection. When withdrawal, contempt, and refusal to engage become part of a repeated pattern of punishment, intimidation, or coercive control, the impact can be devastating.

Over time, the person experiencing this may begin to question their worth, their perceptions, and whether their needs are unreasonable.

You cannot create a loving, reciprocal relationship through the efforts of only one person. Healthy relationships require mutual respect, emotional responsibility, honest communication, and a willingness to repair.

During Domestic Violence Awareness Month, let’s recognize that abuse isn’t always about forcing someone out of a relationship.

Sometimes it’s about emotionally pushing someone away while continuing to keep them trapped within it. 💜

It’s Domestic Violence Awareness Month.What if you decide to separate from your relationship because you don’t feel emot...
10/16/2026

It’s Domestic Violence Awareness Month.

What if you decide to separate from your relationship because you don’t feel emotionally, physically, financially or sexually safe?

“She left me” can become the narrative. Those three words become the public story of a relationship that took years to unravel.

Friends and family may question your decision.

You may be called selfish, impatient, unreasonable, or unwilling to honor your commitment.

But they didn’t witness the private conversations, unanswered requests, broken promises, emotional injuries, or years of you trying to repair the relationship.

The person who finally leaves is not necessarily the person who created the conditions that made leaving necessary.

Often times, the person who leaves is the one who becomes ostracized, isolated, alone, and quietly trying to heal without any support or comforts that were built over many years of effort and contribution.

Coercive control and emotional abuse can be difficult to explain to people who have only seen the public version of a relationship.

And the losses of a relationship separation or ending can extend beyond the marriage—friendships, family connections, financial security, traditions, and the future you imagined can disappear.

That grief is real.

But you don’t have to convince everyone of what happened for your experiences to matter. Other people often have no idea how persistent you were in trying to save the relationship and make changes for the better behind the scenes.

Sometimes leaving isn’t giving up on love. It’s recognizing that love should not require you to give up on yourself.

Not everyone will understand the details of your daily life, the struggles, the cognitive dissonance, the grief, the ongoing financial or legal abuse, nor the fear of moving forward on your own.

You don’t have to do this alone. Find trauma informed support to help you as you move forward.

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It’s Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Just taking a break from educational content about domestic violence for a remi...
10/13/2026

It’s Domestic Violence Awareness Month.

Just taking a break from educational content about domestic violence for a reminder…

If you have experienced domestic violence of any sort, please remember that you can recover and heal.

The time spent in the relationship that hurt you so bad badly was not wasted time. It was training. The scars have taught you that you matter.

Looking back, you can see that these lessons may have been uninvited and unexpected. But you can’t deny how much the experiences have changed you.

Old versions of you may have had to fall away so that you could become who you are now… More sturdy than you intended to have to be. More aware.

The road ahead is not about recovering what was taken from you, who you once were or what you had. It’s about using everything that you’ve learned to move forward.

This next chapter doesn’t have to mean living in survival. You can live with more peace, more freedom, and intention.

Learn how to breathe. Secure your physical, emotional and financial safety. Let your body rest. Research and learn about the cycle you have been in. Engage with friends and activities that lift you up. Do something creative. Find a trauma informed therapist to support you as you navigate the rough spots.

Let’s use the knowledge we have to help us evolve on our own journey and to be a guiding light to help others.

💜

Stacey Brown Counseling Stacey C. Brown

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. You’ve probably heard of the “cycle of violence”: tension builds, an abus...
10/12/2026

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month.

You’ve probably heard of the “cycle of violence”: tension builds, an abusive incident occurs, reconciliation follows, things become calm—and eventually tension builds again.

That model can help some people recognize what they are experiencing.

But abusive relationships don’t always follow a neat cycle.

The more consistent thread is the presence of one partner’s pattern of power and control. The National Domestic Violence Hotline’s Power and Control model describes an ongoing pattern in which intimidation, isolation, emotional abuse, economic control and other tactics may occur alongside—or be reinforced by—physical and sexual violence.

There may also be loving periods, apologies, promises, gifts, tenderness and hope.

Those moments can be real to the person experiencing them. But gifts and romance don’t erase the abuse.

If you’ve spent years wondering, “But it wasn’t bad all the time… “, remember that abuse does not have to happen every day to be serious.

Look at the pattern. Look at the power. Look at what happens when you say no. Pay attention to your own emotions. Are you afraid? Are you hypervigilant?

Are you comforted and relieved by your partner’s presence? If not, there may be larger issues going on.

Ask for help if needed from an experienced therapist who is skilled at assessment for domestic violence and understands trauma recovery. My link is in the bio.

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Stacey Brown Counseling

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Not all abuse is obvious.Some forms are overt—easy to recognize as threate...
10/09/2026

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month.

Not all abuse is obvious.

Some forms are overt—easy to recognize as threatening or abusive:
Physical assault.
Sexual assault or coercion.
Threats of violence.
Throwing or breaking things.
Blocking someone from leaving.
Intimidation.

Other behaviors can be far more covert.
Silent treatment.
Manipulation.
Repeated disrespect or humiliation.
Gaslighting.
Chronic dismissal of your feelings or reality.
Withholding affection or communication as punishment.
Isolation.
Controlling behaviors disguised as concern.
Avoidance used to prevent accountability.
Spinning a narrative to make you look like the aggressor.
Using children to control you.
Blaming you for continuing to bring up an ongoing, unresolved problem behavior.
Ignoring you when you cry.
Refusing to put your name on financial accounts

One difficult aspect of covert abuse is that each incident may seem small when viewed alone. The person experiencing it may spend years feeling confused and wondering:

Am I overreacting?
Maybe I’m too sensitive.
Maybe I misunderstood.
Maybe if I explain myself differently…

But domestic abuse is often best understood by looking at patterns of power and control, not one isolated interaction.

And an important distinction: disagreement, needing space, occasionally withdrawing, or communicating poorly does not automatically constitute abuse. Context, intent, repetition, fear, coercion, and the overall pattern of the relationship matter.

Sometimes what makes covert abuse so damaging is precisely how difficult it is to name.

If something continually leaves you feeling afraid, controlled, diminished, confused, or unable to trust your own perceptions, it deserves attention. If you feel a need to continue to explain yourself, or provide education, or beg your partner to listen or to talk to you, or to solve problems, pay attention.

Look at the whole pattern. Trust your body. If it doesn’t feel respectful and it’s ongoing, it’s a possible problem.
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Stacey Brown Counseling

Join me in sending prayers and love for protection and quick recovery to everyone in the wake of Hurricane. My friends i...
10/09/2026

Join me in sending prayers and love for protection and quick recovery to everyone in the wake of Hurricane. My friends in the Pensacola area tell me things are getting very stormy there as of this afternoon.

Also, send love protection and resilience, not only to the residents, but also to the trees, animals, first responders, and all of the emergency helpers who are being prepared for action.

Stay safe, be kind, and be willing to help if possible.

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October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. This month, I’ll be sharing information about the many forms abuse can ta...
10/06/2026

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month.

This month, I’ll be sharing information about the many forms abuse can take—because recognizing a pattern can be an important step toward safety.

Domestic violence isn’t limited to hitting, bruises, or physical injury. At its core, relationship abuse is a pattern of behaviors used to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner. It can be physical, sexual, verbal, emotional, psychological, financial, digital—and can continue after separation of divorce.

It may look like intimidation, silent treatments, eye, rolling, humiliation, threats, isolation, dismissal, monitoring, controlling money, sexual coercion, destroying belongings, or making someone afraid of what will happen.

Sometimes domestic abuse is so gradual that the person experiencing it doesn’t recognize the pattern for a long time.

And it’s very hard to explain to others who have never experienced it. So victims may be dismissed, ignored or challenged by well meaning friends and family who do not understand.

The statistics matter: more than 1 in 3 U.S. women have experienced contact sexual violence, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner during their lifetime. Men experience intimate partner violence too.

Healthy love does not require one person to become smaller so the other can remain in control. And that is what domestic violence is all about… Control.

Take some time this month to learn about the cycle of violence, the different types of control that are used within relationships, and how the statistics matter.

Ask for help if you are involved in an abusive relationship. Support is here 💜

Stacey Brown Counseling

Some news stories are more than troubling. For survivors, they can reopen old wounds. It’s not just about the recent hor...
09/29/2026

Some news stories are more than troubling. For survivors, they can reopen old wounds.

It’s not just about the recent horrific occurrence and injustice at Cornell University. It’s about a long history of men abusing women … financially, verbally, emotionally, physically, and sexually… Without consequence or accountability.

It is present in the political leaders who have been elected, in business and corporate environment, and our churches, in our community and in our schools.

If you find yourself activated, care for yourself intentionally. Step back, breathe, ground. Counseling, trauma therapy, and somatic practices can help you process what’s being stirred in your body and nervous system.

Taking time to care for yourself doesn’t mean becoming quiet. We can protect our nervous systems and advocate fiercely for change as well. We can support survivors, challenge misogyny, insist on accountability.

We can insist that women’s safety matters, that sexual violence is taken seriously, and that individuals and institutions are held accountable.

Self-care and advocacy are not opposites.

Caring for ourselves is often what allows us to keep using our voices to help others.

Take care of yourself, support other women and keep asking for a world where women are safe, believed, respected and valued.

Ask for support if needed.

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Stacey Brown Counseling

There is something deeply human about wanting to be truly seen.Not fixed.Not judged.Not told what we should feel.Just kn...
09/25/2026

There is something deeply human about wanting to be truly seen.

Not fixed.
Not judged.
Not told what we should feel.

Just known, heard, and understood.

We all need a witness to our lives. Someone we trust enough to share our experiences with. Someone who can sit beside us and see us for who we really are. Someone who can listen to creative ideas for our life questions.

And there may be seasons when that person isn’t available. In those moments, part of healing can be learning to witness ourselves—to listen inward, honor what we feel, and trust what we know.

Therapy can offer another kind of space: a compassionate witness who walks beside you as you make sense of your experiences and discover your own answers.

Sometimes we don’t need someone to tell us who to be.

We need a safe place to be seen while we remember for ourselves. 💚

Stacey C. Brown Stacey Brown Counseling

A moment of balance. 🍂The fall equinox invites us to reflect on the balance between light and darkness, activity and res...
09/22/2026

A moment of balance. 🍂

The fall equinox invites us to reflect on the balance between light and darkness, activity and rest, giving and receiving.

And Libra season, with its scales of justice and compassion, enters at about the same time. These coinciding events lead to further contemplation.

As the seasons change, consider what may need more attention in your own life.
Where can you create a little more space for kindness, connection, creativity, justice, love or simply being? What needs to be resolved that is not yet resolved? What have you been avoiding? What needs to be addressed so that you can live with peace?

Balance isn’t about doing or dividing everything equally. It can be about honoring where you are in this season of life, honoring the people in your life, restoring communication, resolving conflicts or establishing healthy boundaries.

Where are you out of balance? Where are you creating a lack of harmony and miss proportion? Evaluate carefully and make corrections as needed.

Take a breath. Welcome the change. Find your center. Do what is right for yourself and others during the season.

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