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Many children don’t 'ignore' the toilet… they simply don’t feel the signals in time.

If your child struggles with accidents, leaves it until the last minute, or found the transition from nappies harder than expected, this might be about interoception — not behaviour.

When we understand what’s happening inside the body, we can respond with support instead of frustration.

This post will help you see what your child might be experiencing, and give you practical strategies that actually make a difference.

06/11/2026

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06/11/2026

When You're Afraid Being Honest Will Create Distance

The Scenario: There's something true you need to say to your partner, maybe about your feelings, needs, or something you've been holding back, but you're afraid being honest will push them away. So you stay quiet, keeping the peace but also keeping distance, because you're not being real. You want to be close, but you're afraid the truth will destroy the closeness you have.

Try saying this: "I'm scared to tell you this because I don't want to damage what we have, but keeping it hidden is creating distance anyway. I need to be honest with you, and I need you to stay with me while I do."

Why It Works: It names the fear, explains the paradox, and asks them to stay present, all without making it an attack. You're framing honesty as a move toward closeness, not away from it.

Pro Tip: If they respond defensively, resist the urge to go back into hiding. Try: "I know this is hard to hear. But telling you is how I'm trying to get closer, not farther away. Can we work through this together?" The discomfort of honesty is temporary. The distance created by silence isn't.

Important: These scripts work best when direct communication is safe and appropriate. Complex situations, including abusive dynamics, certain mental health conditions, cultural contexts with different communication norms, or circumstances where speaking up could escalate harm, often require personalized strategies. A mental health professional familiar with your specific circumstances can help you navigate boundary-setting in ways that fit your specific relationships and keep you safe.

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06/11/2026

RELATIONSHIP MINUTE
When "I'm Fine" Creates Distance Instead of Connection

The Scenario: Someone asks how you are, and you say "I'm fine" even though you're not. They either believe it and don't know what's actually going on, or sense it's not true and don't know why. Either way, there's distance. Eventually, they stop asking, because they've learned you're not going to tell them the truth anyway.

The Insight: When people don't know what's true for you, they either make assumptions or pull back. The automatic "fine" teaches people that you're not going to let them in, so over time, they stop trying. Your protective response ends up doing the opposite of what you intended.

The Strategy: You don't need to share everything the moment someone asks. But you don't need to say "fine" when you're not either. Try something in the middle: "Honestly, I'm dealing with some stuff, but I'm okay."

Or just something specific and small: "I'm tired today" or "not my best week, but I'm managing." It doesn't have to be detailed. It just has to be real

Pay attention to who you say "fine" to. If it's everyone, including people close to you, that's worth noticing.

Why It Matters: People can't show up for you if they don't know what's happening. The distance isn't because your reality is too much. It's because they're left guessing, and guessing gets exhausting.

Try This Next Time: "Honestly, I'm [tired/overwhelmed/dealing with something], but I'm okay." If they ask what's going on and you're not ready: "It's a lot right now, but I'm not ready to talk about it yet." This is honesty without oversharing.

And notice: do they respect that? Do they circle back later and check in? Or do they seem relieved you're not saying more? The way people respond to your truth tells you something about whether they're safe to be more honest with.