DeYoung Consulting Inc

08/31/2026

Read the latest blog from Dr. DeYoung.
https://conta.cc/4xAUAz5

08/04/2026

Read the latest blog by Dr. DeYoung. https://deyoungconsulting.com/fear/

07/06/2026

https://deyoungconsulting.com/grief-panic/

What if criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling aren't simply bad behaviors—but protests from a heart afraid of losing connection? In this month's blog, I explore Panksepp's PANIC/GRIEF system and how attachment distress often hides beneath the conflicts that frustrate couples the most. Instead of asking, "How do I stop this behavior?" you'll learn to ask, "What connection is my partner afraid of losing?" You'll also discover how curiosity and CARE can transform moments of protest into opportunities for deeper understanding. Plus, I've included a new experiential activity, Taming the Horseponies, to help you uncover the attachment needs hidden beneath your own protests.

06/03/2026

I am currently writing a seven month blog series about the Emotional Systems of Marriage. Last month was SEEKING. This month's blog is CARE.
https://deyoungconsulting.com/care/

05/04/2026

Most couples don’t lose connection because of one big moment—they drift when curiosity quietly fades.

I’m starting a new blog series exploring something that sits underneath how we relate to each other: the emotional systems that shape how we connect, argue, disengage, and grow. Each month, I’ll take one of these systems and translate it into something practical you can actually use in your relationship.

This month’s focus is SEEKING—the part of your brain that drives curiosity, interest, and the desire to understand your partner. When it’s active, you lean in. When it shuts down, it’s easy to assume you already know everything—and that’s where disconnection starts.

Along with the blog, I’ve included a simple “Would You Rather” game designed to spark conversation and help you explore each other again in a low-pressure way.

If you’re interested, you can start here:
https://conta.cc/4cUJYSz

02/06/2026

Affairs rarely begin with a single bad decision — they usually start with quiet disconnection. 💔
In Why Affairs, Dr. Mark DeYoung explores the often-overlooked patterns that leave even good marriages vulnerable, and what couples can do to protect their connection before distance takes hold.
If you’ve ever wondered “How does this happen?” or “How do we guard against it?”, this thoughtful, research-informed post is worth the read.
https://conta.cc/4qrzBKP

10/08/2025

Divorce isn’t a war to win — it’s a transition to navigate. When we treat it like a battlefield, everyone loses: parents, children, and our sense of peace. It’s time to rethink how we end marriages with compassion instead of combat. Read more on how healing begins when we stop fighting and start understanding. 💔➡️💛 Read Dr. Mark's newest blog.
https://conta.cc/48Sglki

01/28/2025

Christian men, please read and consider what is being said here. We need to do better.

“Do men desperately need respect, while women desperately need love?” This was the question posed by Sheila Gregoire on a recent episode of the “Bare Marriage” podcast. “That is the thesis of a lot of bestselling books in evangelicalism like Love and Respect; For Women Only; His Needs, Her...

01/28/2025

Remember the latest blog. All Emotions are a Gift.

I was recently shocked to see an article written not too long ago suggesting that empathy is a sin...All emotions are a gift. Your emotions are a good gift.

01/13/2025

Check out Dr. DeYoung's latest Blog - All Emotions are a Gift.
https://conta.cc/4fPrYsc