07/01/2026
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There was a time when I couldn't even talk about my son's birth without crying.
My first birth ended in an unplanned (and unnecessary) c-section that left me feeling completely powerless. It wasn't just the surgery itself that was traumatic...although it was...but it was also the feeling that things were happening TO me instead of with me. I spent years working through the that grief and trauma.
Then, a few years later, I experienced the complete opposite.
I had a beautiful, healing home birth VBAC that reminded me what birth can feel like when you're informed, respected, and truly part of every decision.
It also taught me something I wish every expecting mother knew:
A c-section does not have to be traumatic.
Birth isn't empowering because it's unmedicated. It isn't empowering because it's vaginal. And it isn't less meaningful because it ends in surgery.
Birth is empowering when a mother feels heard.
When she understands what's happening.
When she's respected.
When she has a voice.
Sometimes a c-section is exactly what saves a mother or baby's life. Other times, it's simply the safest path forward. Either way, mothers deserve to know they still have choices.
There are so many things that can help create a more connected, intentional birth experience. Even in an operating room.
I teamed up with my amazing midwife BundleBorn Midwifery to answer and share all the things I wish someone had told me before my first birth.
🤍 How a doula can advocate for you during a c-section
🤍 The "magic phrase" every parent should know when making medical decisions
🤍 Delayed cord clamping
🤍 Skin-to-skin in the OR
🤍 Advocating for gentle handling of your baby
🤍 Vaginal seeding, including when it may or may not be appropriate
🤍 Pain management options that can make recovery much easier
🤍 Bodywork for c-section babies
🤍 Scar care and postpartum recovery tips
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Informed mothers are empowered mothers.
Whether your c-section is planned, unexpected, or just a possibility, I hope this helps you know that your birth matters, your voice matters, and your experience matters.