Most Satisfied Public Group

Most Satisfied Public Group Most Satisfied was created by Andy Eastham for the purposes of helping men overcome p**n addiction

I am a Christian therapist, registered with the State of Michigan as a social worker, and have 24 years of experience in mental health. I have a passion for helping men struggling with p**n addiction. I created Most Satisfied as a means of reaching men with the hope of Jesus.

Distracted Much? Question: Do we have enough time?That’s an uncomfortable question. We seem to be busy until late at nig...
01/17/2023

Distracted Much?
Question: Do we have enough time?
That’s an uncomfortable question. We seem to be busy until late at night and always have more to do. In fact, there are lots of things we need to do, but we just don’t have enough time.
Or perhaps, we are too distracted.
The Greek word for “anxious” is “distracted.” It’s hard to stay focused on important things when we get bogged down in the little things. I love YouTube shorts and social media, but does that distract me from something more important? And by the way, what is important?
Steven Covey showed us that we can be easily caught up in the unimportant and lose track of the important. And when we do that, we get anxious about things we need to do but seem not to have enough time for. Anxiety is fear about the future, that something unsettling may happen. So, what do we do with this tension?
First, be aware of it. When we get so distracted with the interesting that we don’t have time for the important, our priorities are off. St. Augustine suggested we have “disordered loves” when we don’t have time for what is most important. Ordering our time is an act of honoring God while decreasing our distractions (and anxiety). Funny how that works; the more we put God first the less anxious we are. It’s remarkable how the Bible always proves itself correct when we deal with modern stresses.
What’s amazing is that this all relates back to our emotions. How we self-soothe, or calm ourselves down, reflects our priorities. The idea of self-soothing is related to how we handle life emotionally. When we have too much stress, we try to calm ourselves down with something we enjoy. If your method is eating, then you may gain weight. If your method is drinking, then you may become an alcoholic. If watching social media is your method, then you are "normal."
So, what's your method of self-soothing?
Being aware of your patterns of relaxing is an important part of life. God wants you to be happy, but your method of relaxing usually isn’t his. Social media may be fine, as long as boundaries are placed on it. But when you lose yourself in the “interesting” you end up distracted and, in effect, anxious. This pressure makes us want to self-soothe more, and we go back to the interesting. Before we know it, we can lose a decade of life.
Do you have time for silence? Do you have time for being with God? When was the last time you enjoyed him? Have you allowed Jesus to soothe you?
Allow margin into your life to allow God into your life. Adjusting your schedule can actually be an act of worship.
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“Am I that emotional?" As men, we like to think we don’t struggle with emotions. In fact, if we are real men, we can co...
01/17/2023

“Am I that emotional?"

As men, we like to think we don’t struggle with emotions. In fact, if we are real men, we can completely ignore emotions, kind of like when you smash your finger with a hammer and decide to keep working. We ignore the pain and keep doing what is needed. Why? So we can 1) get the job done and 2) brag about your smashed finger to your friends.

“Yeah, I smashed it pretty well, think the fingernail is almost coming off."
"Wow, what did you do?"
"Nothing, I just kept working. Had to get the job done."
And the other men marvel at your manliness. And your “man points” go up in their eyes.

That's what we do with our emotions. We feel hurt by what someone said and simply ignore it. We walk it off. Maybe rub some dirt in it, unless it’s winter and all the dirt is frozen.

That’s NOT how God made you. You are supposed to be hurt when you are rejected or shamed. Ignoring your feelings doesn’t work. Psychologist Joe Dispenza shared, “thoughts are the language of the brain, and feelings are the language of the body.”

So, the question is, are you aware of your body? Not, can you move your body, but are you, right now, aware of your feelings? This is not “girl talk,” this is real.

When emotions are ignored or stuffed in the imaginary basement of our mind, they are actually stuck in the body. When anger is stuffed, it will come out. When loneliness is ignored, it ends up in the body, draining our bodies and our minds. It remains with us physically.

“So, what am I supposed to do about it?”

Answer: Stop. Begin to feel your emotions. When was the last time you were sad? When did you last cry? When have you felt satisfied? How about peace?

You need to turn off the devices and feel. Stop the thoughts (mind) and be aware (physically). Rest. Be in silence. This novel idea can change your life. Be aware of yourself, so you can be fully alive.

God speaks to you through your feelings. If you can’t feel, then you can’t hear. You may be missing out on incredible things God wants to do with you by numbing yourself.

Breathe deeply and rate your stress level. Like a dial on your own dashboard, rate your stress level from 1 (no stress) to 10 (the most stress you ever felt). Read your dashboard and be aware of yourself.

Interested? Contact Andy Eastham at [email protected]

03/19/2022

Our Real Identity?

But God is whispers, “you are my beloved. You belong to me.” It’s not what you do or produce that defines you; He’s the one that defines you. And he’s already done it. Everything that seems so important will be forgotten the moment of your death. Your living station (Earth) is a temporary housing unit. Your worth doesn’t come from outside of you; it comes your inside of you – from God.
Identify is not something you earn, it’s something you already have. You have just been deceived.
Why do men define themselves by their careers? What is the first question you ask a guy you are meeting for the first time? “What do you do?” Isn’t that a telling question? We don’t ask them if they are married, if they go to Church, if their father is in good health – we ask what they do for a living. Whether we know it or not, we imply their identity is in their work.
Christ already answered the dilemma of who we are 2,000 years ago. I love how Eugene Peterson puts it in his paraphrase of the Message:
“With the arrival of Jesus, the Messiah, that fateful dilemma is resolved. Those who enter into Christ’s being-here-for-us no longer have to live under a continuous, low-lying black cloud. A new power is in operation. The Spirit of life in Christ, like a strong wind, has magnificently cleared the air, freeing you from a fated lifetime of brutal tyranny at the hands of sin and death.” Romans 8:1-2
Christ has come to free us from “a fated lifetime of brutal tyranny at the hands of sin and death.” What can be better than that?
The question is, do you feel that freedom?

The Power to Love

God has invited us into a world of love. He loved us first. When we receive that limitless force of love, we spill over with love for others.
What do you do SINCE your need for significance and security are already met?
That’s a big question. Instead of chasing after love and acceptance, awake to the reality that you already have it. You have freedom to love others without strings attached. You can give without needing something in return. God didn’t die for you to feel better about yourself, he died so he could change you into one of his sons, and then you could reach his other sons with the love he planted inside your heart.
But you can’t do that if your identity is built on shame and scarcity. If you are trying to get life from things, you can’t give life to anyone.
Louie used to say, “Everything you do, you do from your self-esteem.” If you have a calm confidence that Christ has already named you, then you can feel worthy enough to reach outside of yourself and risk loving others. And your world gets bigger.If you don’t feel God has defined you, then you really don’t have the energy or resources to risk loving others. And your world gets smaller and quieter.
“A sense of worthiness inspires us to be vulnerable, share openly, and persevere,” says Brown, “Shame keeps us small, resentful, and afraid. In shame-prone cultures, where parents, leaders, and administrators consciously or unconsciously encourage people to connect their self-worth to what they produce, I see disengagement, blame, gossip, stagnation, favoritism, and a total dearth of creativity and innovation.” (3)

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