Valiant Living Men's Recovery Program

Valiant Living Men's Recovery Program Valiant Living treats mental health, process & substance addictions, and co-occurring conditions often resulting from grief and trauma for men 26 and older.

07/23/2026

There's a moment almost every wife in this world knows and almost none of them talk about.

He finally quit. The thing you begged him to stop, he stopped. Everyone told you this was the finish line.

So why does the house still feel exactly the same?

That question has an answer, and it's the subject of this video. It's the idea that finally made my own story make sense, and I'd never heard it until I was sitting in treatment. Most families fighting this battle have never heard it either, which is why so many of them are winning the wrong war.

Watch it, and if it puts words to something you've been living, pass it along to the one person who came to mind while you watched. Sometimes borrowed language is the beginning of a real conversation.

And when you want to talk it through with someone who's lived it: call 720-669-1285, email [email protected], or visit valiantliving.com. I'd love to hear your story.

07/21/2026

I want to tell you about the moment my recovery actually started, because it wasn't the moment I thought it would be.

I was sitting at my own intervention. Everything hidden was now exposed, every piece of my brokenness on the table, and I was braced for the hammer. "How could you? How dare you?" I had already rehearsed my defenses for every version of it.

The interventionist sat down across from me, and the first thing out of his mouth was:

"How long have you been in pain?"

I'll never forget it. My defenses didn't lower. They collapsed. Because for the first time in longer than I could remember, someone was looking at me and seeing more than my behavior. He saw a human being with layers, with a story, with a wound underneath all of it.

That question is the entire philosophy at Valiant Living, the men's treatment program where I ended up going and where I work today. We don't start with the shame or camp out on the acting out. We go looking for the pain, the trauma, the why underneath, because that's where the real work is, and it's the reason the work actually holds.

If you love someone caught in this, here's what I'd offer you: "How could you?" closes a man. "How long have you been in pain?" opens him.

And if that man is you, I'd love to have a conversation about what you'd need to show up honest and healthy in your life. No pressure, no script. 720-669-1285 or [email protected].

07/15/2026

Sober is the baseline. It's not the goal.

Our Director of Wellness, Malissa Fantanarosa, said something on this week's podcast that's worth sitting with: when a man walks out of this program, obviously you want him sober. But she wants him to leave with a toolbox for living a connected, purposeful life.

One of our alumni shared what that looks like in real life. He woke up one morning in a funk. The old pattern would have been to stay there, scrolling, disconnected. Instead, he reached into the toolbox: a walk, with gratitude woven in. Forty five minutes later, he was ready for his day.

That's what recovery is actually made of. Not one big decision, but small tools used consistently. And for the families walking alongside someone in recovery: this is what he's building while he's here. A set of daily practices you'll get to see for yourself, one small choice at a time.

The full conversation, plus the free Five Pillars guide with weekly check ins for individuals and couples, is here: https://www.valiantliving.com/episode66/

07/14/2026

There's a question wives ask themselves in the middle of the night, and almost none of them say it out loud:

"Am I crazy, or is something really wrong?"

You found something on his phone. Or the story didn't add up. Or you just feel it, that he's in the room but not really there. And when you finally brought it up, somehow you ended up being the one apologizing. You're controlling. You're paranoid. You're overreacting.

So now you're lying awake wondering if you're losing your mind.

You're not. What you're feeling has a name, and there's a reason your gut won't let this go.

I'm Drew, a Recovery Advocate and an alumnus of the men's treatment program at Valiant Living here in Colorado. My wife stood exactly where you're standing, asking that exact question. She wasn't crazy. She was the first person in our house to see the truth, and it was the beginning of everything getting better.

If you're carrying this right now and just need to talk with someone who gets it, I'd genuinely love to hear from you. 720-669-1285 or [email protected].

06/17/2026

"Nope. There's never been any trauma in my life."

That's what one man told Sherry Young. As they kept talking, he mentioned his brother had died by su***de the year before.

So much of recovery starts here: not with the substance, but with the things we've learned to call "just life."

When you've survived enough, the brain stops labeling pain as pain. It becomes normal. Background noise. Something you push through. And you can't heal what you won't name.

In Part 1 of our clinical roundtable, five clinicians talk about what actually makes a case complex, why denial is so often the real barrier, and how naming the truth becomes the first step toward healing.

Watch or listen to the full conversation → www.valiantliving.com/episode65

The conversation continues this Thursday. Part Two of our clinical roundtable on the future of complex case management, ...
06/15/2026

The conversation continues this Thursday. Part Two of our clinical roundtable on the future of complex case management, free and virtual at 9am MST. Four voices from across the field, one honest discussion. Register at www.valiantliving.com/roundtable

06/09/2026

"What do I do with this pain?"

That's the question so many betrayed partners ask.

When trust is broken, it's easy to feel alone, angry, confused, and exhausted.

In this clip, Matt Smallbone shares what it can look like to bring that pain honestly to a Higher Power.

No pretending.
No perfect words.
Just honesty.

Because healing often begins when we stop trying to carry everything ourselves.

Watch the full conversation and find links to Matt's book, *The Prayer Experiment*, at:

valiantliving.com/episode64

Complex cases don't follow a script. On June 18th, we're continuing the conversation.Part Two of our Third Thursday Clin...
06/08/2026

Complex cases don't follow a script. On June 18th, we're continuing the conversation.

Part Two of our Third Thursday Clinical Roundtable — The Future of Complex Case Management — brings together four voices from across the field to talk coordination, transitions of care, and what's actually working.

🗓 June 18 · 9:00 AM MST · Free & virtual
Panel: Michael Simms, LCSW · Dr. Stephanie Emde · Tyrone Reddick, CPFS · Sherry Young, PhD
Moderated by Drew Powell

Register at the link in bio (valiantliving.com/roundtable — can't attend live? Sign up and we'll send the recording.

Most families do not see a loved one's addiction coming until it has already been going on for years. It is rarely becau...
06/05/2026

Most families do not see a loved one's addiction coming until it has already been going on for years. It is rarely because of a lack of care. Often, the early warning signs are quiet, easily dismissed as everyday stress, or hidden behind deep shame.

When a man is struggling, he typically goes to great lengths to keep his life looking stable on the surface. But behind the scenes, subtle behavioral and emotional patterns begin to shift. Knowing what to look for is the first step toward getting him real, lasting support.

In this guide, we outline three common but frequently missed signs that a man in your life may be struggling with addiction or co-occurring mental health challenges.

Swipe through the slides to learn how to spot these changes and understand how to help him take the first step toward healing 💙

06/05/2026

"I used to carry around a bucket of unforgiveness."

That's a picture many of us can relate to.

Whether it's resentment toward a parent, spouse, friend, employer, or even ourselves, unresolved hurt has a way of weighing us down.

In recovery, we often discover that healing isn't just about stopping destructive behaviors. It's also about releasing the emotional burdens we've been carrying for years.

In this episode of The Valiant Living Podcast, Matt Smallbone shares how a daily practice of forgiveness transformed his perspective on healing, relationships, and connection with a Higher Power.

If you've ever struggled to let go of resentment, this conversation is worth your time.

Watch the full episode and find links to Matt's new book at:

valiantliving.com/episode64

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