Kim Ludeman Coaching

09/02/2024

Hi friend!!

I started a new Instagram account, - exploring nature and seeking an aligned heart through wild journeys and breathtaking views.

I am so excited to share how being in nature has helped me heal and grow. It's amazing how close to the Divine we can feel just by surrounded by trees! I find that some of my best AHA moments, connections and clarity come through being outdoors.

I would LOVE for you to follow along and hopefully be inspired to journey outdoors with more intention to find alignment, peace and connection with yourself and others.

08/16/2024

Love this article so much!! https://www.wellandgood.com/brainspotting-therapy-for-trauma/

I am passionate about Brainspotting and have been privileged to have seen it work in incredible ways over the last 4 years.

I am really looking forward to expanding into the Brainspotting Consulting space to help support other practitioners in their use of this amazing tool.

I recorded a Brainspotting session for YouTube if you're curious what it can look like: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YqoKjw08OKU&t=906s

If you are curious about what Brainspotting can do for you, please send me a message or check out my site, https://www.kimludeman.com/coaching

Brainspotting is a powerful therapeutic tool that I utilize in my coaching practice. Don’t let the name scare you- it’s nothing like the Matrix, though it can be a little “woo”. In a nutshell, it’s a tool to liberate your body/mind from the negative beliefs, thoughts, patterns and loops it...

07/30/2024

**Long Catch Up/Update Post Alert**

I was diagnosed with ADD when I was about 9 (waaaay back in the 90's) when the understanding of ADD was "an abnormal defect of moral control in children". Not shaming at all.....

I have some memory of being given Ritalin for a very short time and being taken off of it. My parents never talked about it again, so I grew up thinking I didn't ACTUALLY have ADD or that I had grown out of it. (And no, you actually don't "grow out of ADD" you just get really good at hiding it from yourself and others).

Fast forward 30 years to my life basically falling apart. I can't go into what has transpired over the last 9 months, but trust me, it's been horrible. As a result, the ways that I managed my eating disorder (BED/Orthorexia) fell apart. (Fun fact- did you know that ED's are often a secondary disorder?? Usually a neurodivergent "disorder" such as ADHD, Autism or OCD are the primary disorder and open the door to EDs)

Even with all of my tools that I have learned and practiced over the last 6 years, I was unable to cope in "healthy" ways. I finally sought out help for the first time for my ED which started when I was about 8 years old.

I now have an actual team of professionals ranging from an ED therapist, ED dietitian and a PMHNP along with my Brainspotting therapist in an attempt to find more healing and better management of my ED.(It's awful, btw). Both my therapist and PMHNP agreed that though I have learned to cope and manage my symptoms, the ADD (now just called ADHD) indeed never went away but has been the unseen force behind some of my deepest struggles.

This has ROCKED my world. It explains so much! I have lived with a constant story that I just wasn't trying hard enough or wasn't good enough (a VERY common story for women especially). Understanding that my struggles are not a "abnormal defect of moral control" or failure, but rather the way my sweet brain is wired, has opened a door to deeper compassion and kindness for myself and others. I am excited to learn more about ADHD and how I can work WITH it instead of against it.

Why am I sharing all this personal stuff, especially on social media? Because I LOVE when people are vulnerable and share struggles, triumphs and . I deeply value sharing as a way to connect and to raise awareness around topics that can be harder to talk about- confidence, therapy, trauma, healing, eating disorders and now ADHD. That's why I spent years doing the Captivatingly Confident podcast- to have conversations around what it looks like to be YOU bravely in a world where that feels scary as hell.

I love talking about mental health and personal growth (which is also why it's my job, lol). I love when people have moments like I am having- when a lightbulb gets turned on and there is clarity and perspective. It's my JAM!

I have taken a 4 month hiatus from social media and feel ready to slowly enter back into the flow and open up opportunities for connection and conversation around what "wellness" can really look like. If you're looking for a place to join in, you can join my Facebook Group, Captivatingly Confident Community. I would love to have you

07/10/2024

I think it’s interesting how uncomfortable we are with discomfort as a culture. I was watching some women in the gym talking and one was expressing her discomfort and the others were quick to say things like “this too shall pass” and “you’ll get through it”- well intentioned, and also invalidating of her struggle. I really appreciated the woman’s response “but when?”.

What could happen if sometimes we practiced real empathy of sitting in discomfort with hurting people without silver linings, platitudes or positive thinking? What could shift as a result of being like “wow, that really sounds sh*tty” and just listening to someone else’s discomfort? Just curious…

07/05/2024

I am looking for 3 people who feel that they are "addicted" to late night snacking who really want to understand the behavior and potentially shift or change it.

This is for a 4-week online small group that I am testing out utilizing coaching and Brainspotting. There is a discounted rate for participating. Please PM me if you are interested.

05/10/2023

Captivatingly Confident Podcast : pattern disrupt

11/19/2022

Captivatingly Confident Podcast : Cultivating Compassion, Curiosity and Connection Through Conflict with Tim Ludeman LPC

10/29/2022

Captivatingly Confident Podcast : Cultivating Empowerment: Swap Your "Can't" for "How"

10/28/2022

Do you know any serial "sorry" sayers???

09/05/2022

Great day on Dog Mountain with fellow member ! Such a beautiful day and gorgeous views! So thankful for this group and how it keeps me accountable and consistently on the trail.

Want to hike with us?? We have chapters in Portland, Bend, Boise, Corvallis and Trinidad,CO! Check out www.Summitseekersllc.com for more info!

You can also snag 20% off your order of delicious using code SUMMITSEEKERS20!

08/16/2022

One of my clients asked me recently, "How do I get rid of my anger?"

You don't.

Anger is usually a secondary emotion, meaning sadness is often the primary emotion. We get mad because it's "easier" than sitting with sadness, disappointment, loss or grief.

Inside, there's a part of you that feels sad (usually a childhood part) and a lot of us have stories we learned as kids about sadness:

It's bad to feel sad.
Sadness makes other people sad.
We hide our sad feelings.
Sadness means something is wrong.
Sadness means you aren't lovable.
No one can comfort me when I feel sad.

These unconscious stories and beliefs inform our present reactions. How do we change that?

One way to start is by becoming aware of how you know you're feeling angry. What does anger feel like in your body? When you can identify the sensation, breathe into it and ask it what it's sad about. See if there is an unmet need that you can meet for this sad part or reach out to someone for support.

You'll be amazed at how much information you will have when you start to practice this!! You can move through sadness and anger more quickly and be less reactive toward it.

What do you do when you feel angry? What do you do when you feel sad? Do you have coping strategies that you use to manage uncomfortable feelings??

08/12/2022

🤯600 SESSIONS!!!👏🏻🎉

I just logged my 600th Brainspotting session as a Certified Practitioner!

I have been learning SO much about trauma, bravery, wounds and healing in the last two years that it blows my mind!

One of the major themes throughout these sessions has been a desperate need for COMPASSIONATE CURIOSITY.

Compassionate curiosity is being genuinely interested in what is happening, for ourselves or others, without criticism or judgment of what we find. It’s an understanding that we can accept even the shadow or dark parts of us and extend that to the people we care about.

🔑That the behaviors and patterns we get stuck in aren’t a problem to fix but rather a part to be accepted and cared for.

How can you show compassionate curiosity to yourself?? Tell me what you think below! (I’ll put mine in the comments too).