Hugging my grief by Pilar

08/16/2026

06/19/2026

Child Loss Grief: The Truth About Being Called “Strong”

“You’re so strong.”

“I don’t know how you do it.”

“I could never survive losing a child.”

I’ve heard these words more times than I can count since Nick died.

And while I know they’re meant with kindness, the truth is…

I never wanted to be strong.

I wanted my son.

I wanted the future I thought we would have.

The milestones.
The conversations.
The ordinary moments we all assume we’ll get.

When you’re grieving the loss of a child, strength isn’t usually a choice.

You get up because there are people who still need you.
You take the next breath because your body keeps breathing.
You put one foot in front of the other because there isn’t another path available.

People often see the version of us that survived.

They don’t see the sleepless nights.
The panic.
The tears in the shower.
The moments we wondered how we could possibly keep going.

If you’re grieving the death of a child and people keep telling you how strong you are, I hope you know this:

You don’t have to feel strong to keep going.

You just need to You don’t have to be strong every day to keep loving, remembering, and carrying your child in your heart.

03/23/2026

Sometimes the hardest part of grief is not the pain itself…
it’s the feeling that we should be “past it” by now.

But in Genesis, we see something powerful.

God didn’t just create light—
He created seasons.

There is a time for day…
and a time for night.

And both were intentional.

So if you’re in a season that feels heavy, slow, or dark…
it doesn’t mean you’re failing.

It means you’re human.

Healing has seasons too.
And just like night…
it will not last forever.

💙 You’re not behind.
💙 You’re not broken.
💙 You’re in a season.

03/10/2026

After the loss of my son, my life changed forever. Although I already had a degree in Psychology, I felt called to deepen my understanding of grief Through that pain, I decided to turn my grief into purpose and went back to school became a Certified Grief Educator, and I completed my Master's in Mental Health and Wellness with an emphasis in grief and bereavement.
Today my mission is to educate and support others navigating loss - because no one should have to walk through grief alone.
If you or someone you know is struggling with grief, please feel free to reach out. I'm here to help.
phone: 281-9019215

12/27/2025

In grief, it’s easy to feel like the pain is all that’s left of us — but we are so much more than what happened to us.
“The decision to live fully is about being present for life, no matter how hard life is at the moment. It’s about what you are made of, not what happens to you.”
In the early days of loss, we often identify ourselves only through the pain.
We think we’ve become the tragedy.
But that isn’t the whole truth.
We are still the husband, wife, parent, sibling, partner — the person who loved deeply and was loved in return.
We are the one who has experienced grief, and the one who will continue to carry it… but we are not defined by sorrow alone.
And at some point — not quickly, not easily — a moment arrives.
A quiet moment of choice.
Since we are still here, we must decide:
Will we continue living a life that honors them?
Will we step toward a future they would want for us?
Living fully isn’t forgetting the loss.
It’s remembering the love — and choosing to keep going because of it.
What helps you stay present when life feels too heavy to carry?

11/13/2025

Blind Grief
Blind grief feels like walking through the night without knowing if the dawn still exists. It is losing something so deep that even tears cannot name it. It feels like holding air where a presence used to be, as if the soul keeps stumbling over memories that hurt to touch. There is no direction, only an emptiness that teaches you to listen to the silence and breathe within the absence.

Over time, you discover that it’s not about forgetting or filling the emptiness, but about learning to live within it. Blind grief teaches us to trust the invisible — the love that doesn’t fade, the bonds that don’t die even when their form changes. It’s a slow journey, sometimes clumsy, but profoundly human. Because even when the eyes cannot see, the heart continues to find its own way toward the light.

Sometimes it’s not about seeing the path, but about feeling that love still guides your steps, even in the dark.

11/13/2025

El Duelo a Ciegas

El duelo a ciegas es como caminar en medio de la noche sin saber si aún existe el amanecer. Es perder algo tan profundo que ni las lágrimas alcanzan para nombrarlo. Se siente como sostener el aire donde antes estaba una presencia, como si tropezara con recuerdos que duelen al tocarlos. No hay dirección, solo un vacío que enseña a escuchar el silencio y a respirar dentro de la ausencia.

Con el tiempo, uno descubre que no se trata de olvidar ni de llenar el vacío, sino de aprender a vivir en él. El duelo a ciegas nos enseña a confiar en lo invisible: en el amor que no se apaga, en los lazos que no mueren aunque la forma cambie. Es un viaje lento, a veces torpe, pero profundamente humano. Porque aunque los ojos no vean, el corazón sigue buscando su propio camino hacia la luz.
A veces no se trata de ver el camino, sino de sentir que el amor sigue guiando los pasos, incluso en la oscuridad

10/29/2025

What is normal after your child dies? 💔
Normal is smiling while your heart aches because they’re missing from every moment that matters.
Normal is replaying the day it happened over and over, wishing you could change just one thing.
Normal is feeling the silence hit harder than any sound ever could.
Normal is pretending you’re okay because it makes others more comfortable, even when you’re not.
Normal is learning to live with a pain that doesn’t fade… only becomes part of who you are.

10/24/2025

When a loved one dies, it shouldn’t be called a test, a gift, or a blessing. There is nothing you can call grief that makes it hurt any less, but navigating the pain is how we create meaning out of grief. Meaning allows us to find a new way forward that can empower us to change, grow, and heal.

Who do you remember? Say their name in the comments. As long as we remember them, they never fully die.