A Circle of Joy

06/04/2026

Are you tired of second-guessing your reality after betrayal? You aren’t "overthinking"—your body is simply trying to make sense of a broken promise.

Betrayal can leave us trapped in loops of self-doubt, hypervigilance, and exhaustion, but you don't have to carry this burden alone. I’m honored to join over 20 experts for the Overcoming Betrayal & Self-Doubt online conference by AVAIYA University.

Together, we’ll provide the nervous system tools and boundaries you need to end the overthinking and reclaim your inner compass.

✨ Join us for this free event starting Today!

Click the link in my bio to save your spot and start your journey back to yourself.
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06/03/2026

The Damage Behind Closed Doors 🚪
We often focus on the discovery of betrayal, but the true devastation frequently begins long before, in the quiet, secret behaviors hidden behind closed doors. These "minor" choices—the small withholdings, the secret habits, and the double lives—act like termites, slowly weakening the foundation of a marriage until the structure can no longer hold.

In part one of our new series, we explore the hidden damage these patterns cause and why bringing them into the light is the only path to genuine healing.

Read the full blog post here:
👉 https://www.betrayaltraumatohealingandjoy.com/helping-resources/blog/327-the-hidden-damage-of-secret-behaviors-behind-closed-doors-part-1
Find Support on Your Healing Journey
You don’t have to process the trauma of betrayal alone. We are here to support you.

📞 Book your FREE 60-minute assessment call: https://www.betrayaltraumatohealingandjoy.com/talk-with-someone/online-assessment

👭✨ Join our ACOJ Support Groups: https://www.betrayaltraumatohealingandjoy.com/support-groups

👩‍💻 Connect with Coach Katherine: https://www.betrayaltraumatohealingandjoy.com/coaches/katherine

Sensing a shift in your marriage but don’t know why? Learn why your intuition catches onto hidden secrecy before your mind does, and how naming the truth is the first step toward real healing.

05/27/2026

Choose the Hard That Heals 🕊️
Healing isn't found in a life free of difficulty—it's found in the courage to face it.

We often try to avoid the "hard" things, hoping they will disappear if we look away. But real transformation doesn't come from avoidance; it comes from choosing the hard path that aligns with your values, honors your truth, and leads you back to yourself.

Which "hard" are you choosing today? ✨

Need Support on Your Journey?
Whether you need guidance for yourself or a place to belong, we are here to help.

📞 Book your FREE 60-minute assessment call: https://www.betrayaltraumatohealingandjoy.com/talk-with-someone/online-assessment

👩‍💻 Connect with Coach Amanda: https://www.betrayaltraumatohealingandjoy.com/coaches/amanda

✨ Join our ACOJ Support Groups: https://www.betrayaltraumatohealingandjoy.com/support-groups

05/25/2026

Build Your Dams Further Upstream 🌊
We often wait until the storm is already breaking to try and hold back the flood. But in recovery, if you wait until you are at the precipice of a relapse to start fighting, it’s already almost too late.

The only way to guarantee stability is to build your dams further upstream than you think is necessary. This means addressing the small stressors, the subtle lies, and the unmet needs long before they gain momentum.

Don't wait for the crisis to manage your recovery—build your defenses early, in the quiet moments of your day. 🕊️

📞 Book your FREE 60-minute assessment call: https://www.betrayaltraumatohealingandjoy.com/talk-with-someone/online-assessment

✨ Join our ACOJ Support Groups: https://www.betrayaltraumatohealingandjoy.com/support-groups

05/22/2026

There is no easy path forward.
We often spend so much time searching for a shortcut through the pain, hoping for an "easy" way out. But there isn't one.

There is only choosing your HARD.

Whether you choose to stay and rebuild, set firm boundaries, or start over, each path requires immense strength. You don't get to choose if it will be difficult, but you can choose the "hard" that aligns with your values and leads you back to your own healing. 🕊️

📞 Book your FREE 60-minute assessment call: https://www.betrayaltraumatohealingandjoy.com/talk-with-someone/online-assessment

✨ Join our ACOJ Support Groups: https://www.betrayaltraumatohealingandjoy.com/support-groups

05/21/2026

God Hates What Destroys You 🕊️
If you’ve ever felt like your struggle is too big for grace, or that your pain is something you have to hide from your faith, it’s time to shift your perspective.

We often think of God’s "hatred" as directed toward us, but the truth is quite the opposite. God hates what tries to destroy you. He hates the shame, the addiction, and the betrayal that have caused you so much suffering. When you are hurting, you aren't fighting against God—you are fighting for the life He intended for you to have.

Read more about finding grace in the midst of your struggle:
👉 https://www.betrayaltraumatohealingandjoy.com/helping-resources/blog/326-god-hates-what-tries-to-destroy-you

📞 Book your FREE 60-minute assessment call: https://www.betrayaltraumatohealingandjoy.com/talk-with-someone/online-assessment

✨ Join our ACOJ Support Groups: https://www.betrayaltraumatohealingandjoy.com/support-groups

God Hates What Tries to Destroy You Published on 20 May 2026 Coach Katherine For many of us, marriage was never something we entered into lightly. It was sacred. It mattered deeply. And because of that, the thought of leaving, under any circumstance, can feel heavy, confusing, and even filled with g...

05/15/2026

The Comfort Auto-Pilot 🧠
Unmet emotional needs always seek an outlet. By default, we turn to what worked in the past—whether that's chocolate, work, or s*x.

Real change starts with awareness, not just willpower. When you name the need, you can finally choose comfort that actually heals. 🕊️

📞 Book your FREE 60-minute assessment call: https://www.betrayaltraumatohealingandjoy.com/talk-with-someone/online-assessment

✨ Join our ACOJ Support Groups: https://www.betrayaltraumatohealingandjoy.com/support-groups

05/13/2026

Choose Your "Hard"
After betrayal, there is no "easy" road. Whether you choose to stay, separate, or divorce, each path requires immense strength.

The goal isn't to avoid the difficulty, but to choose the "hard" that aligns with your values and leads you back to your own healing. 🕊️

Read the full post here:
👉 https://www.betrayaltraumatohealingandjoy.com/helping-resources/blog/325-choose-your-hard-healing-staying-separating-or-divorcing-after-betrayal

If your husband is in a Learn Empathy group, you don't have to walk the path alone. Join Coach Amanda Coffey’s companion group for wives to gain insight into their growth using the men's workbook.

Healing happens faster when you understand the process.

Join Coach Amanda Coffey’s companion group for wives to gain insight into his workbook and find your own support. https://www.betrayaltraumatohealingandjoy.com/talk-with-someone/meet-the-coaches/coach-amanda

Choose Your Hard: Healing, Staying, Separating, or Divorcing After Betrayal Published on 12 May 2026 Coach Amanda Betrayal changes everything. Choosing to heal after betrayal is not a single decision; it is a long, uneven road that requires your effort and your partner’s effort in very different w...

05/09/2026

💐 You Are More Than Your Heartache
Holidays and special days on the calendar can often feel like a spotlight on what has been fractured. For many women navigating betrayal trauma, Mother's Day can carry a unique weight—a mix of celebrating the love for your children while carrying the heavy ache of a broken trust.

At A Circle of Joy, we want to remind you that your worth is not defined by your circumstances, your relationship status, or the pain you’ve endured. You are special, you are resilient, and you are deeply loved for exactly who you are, apart from the heartache you may still feel. 🕊️

Today, we celebrate you.

Healing in Community
If today feels heavy, remember that you don't have to carry it alone. We are here to walk with you toward a future of peace and joy.

📞 Book your FREE 60-minute assessment call: https://www.betrayaltraumatohealingandjoy.com/talk-with-someone/online-assessment

✨ Join our ACOJ Support Groups: https://www.betrayaltraumatohealingandjoy.com/support-groups

05/08/2026

Sobriety is the Start—Empathy is the Bridge 🤝
I say this not just as a coach, but from lived understanding: I learned empathy later than I wish I had, and it cost me my marriage. For a long time, I believed that love and sobriety were enough. But I hadn't yet learned how to show up in a way that my partner could truly feel.

You don’t have to learn this the hard way.

Empathy is not just a feeling; it is a skill that can be learned. If you are willing to grow in this space, it can change the future of your relationship while it still matters most. My Learn Empathy Group is a safe, small space (limited to 5-6 men) where we move past the masks and learn the language of true connection. 🕊️

Group Details & Registration
Join us for 16 weekly sessions focused on deep processing and skill-building.

🗓️ Starts: Friday, May 29, 2026

⏰ Time: 7:00 PM – 8:30 PM CDT

👥 Size: Limited to 5–6 men for maximum engagement

📖 Workbook: Learn Empathy: Help Your Betrayed Wife Heal (Available on Amazon)

🔗 Register & Learn More Here: https://www.betrayaltraumatohealingandjoy.com/support-groups/mens-support-groups/learn-empathy/61-mens-empathy-group-ajay-friday

Take the First Step
I offer a one-hour, no-cost Zoom session to hear your story, answer your questions, and see if this group is the right fit for you. Don't wait until the distance grows deeper.

📧 Email me to schedule your call: [email protected]

How You Can Help Her Heal: Earning your wife’s trust after destroying it will never be easy, but you can learn and grow the emotional intimacy skills required to be the man she needs. Any married...