08/10/2025
I tell my clients this all the time. Just because someone denies your experience, doesn't mean your experience is not real.
Not everyone will understand what you went through.
Not because your pain isn't real-but because some people don't have the capacity to meet you there.
People can only understand you from their own level of
awareness.
And if they haven't done the work to feel their own pain, regulate their nervous system, or hold emotional complexity-they'll dismiss, deny, or downplay yours.
That doesn't mean you need to convince them.
And it definitely doesn't mean you need to keep trying to explain something your body knows to be true.
Part of healing is learning to trust yourself.
Your story. Your truth. Your experience.
To know, deep in your body, "This happened. It mattered.
And I don't need to justify it to anyone.'
You are not here to gather permission slips for your pain.
You are here to move through it.
To honour it in the way that you need.
So, if someone can't meet you with compassion, it's not your job to work hard to get them to understand.
You deserve to be surrounded by people who don't need convincing to honour what you've been through and its impact on you. - .trauma.educator
