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Healing Our Trauma Nadirah Habeebullah, LMFT is a trauma and attachment therapist in the Kansas City area.

She works with individuals, families, and couples on such issues as depression, anxiety, grief/loss, trauma, life adjustments, etc.

08/11/2026

Yall, I've got 10 plants in my office! Can you believe that? I sure can't. I've never had a green thumb. Never been a garden girly, but my plants this time around in this well-lit office have done so well. I'm so pleased with myself and my ability to keep them alive for over 3 years now. Go me!

This is one small way I celebrate my small wins. I bet there are some small wins for you to celebrate too. Find them!

Pic of me last Thursday after work. Me and my lil overnight bag were prepared to make a 3+ hour drive to St Louis for ye...
07/28/2026

Pic of me last Thursday after work. Me and my lil overnight bag were prepared to make a 3+ hour drive to St Louis for yet another installment of a 3 year training I signed up for. Thankfully I didnt have to drive back because my new-driver son, who was already there with family, drove us all the way home. He was so excited. Love that for him.

I spent four long days learning and practicing somatic interventions I can bring back to work. Some of it was new and some was a reinforcement of what I've been doing. The learning was great. The hard part was having to do our own little therapy sessions and be the client. That was so challenging for me because I'm far more cognitive than body oriented. Ya girl likes to think, so I was definitely struggling. But I can't expect clients to do difficult work and I'm not willing to do the same. I can't just talk about it. I have to BE about it.

So though it was way outside of my comfort zone, I still showed up. By now, I know better than to come to a therapy training and expect comfort, so nothing was shocking about the difficulty.

Anyhoo, just make sure you put some respect on my name because therapists put in a lot of time, money and effort into this craft. Ain't nobody over here "just talking" to people. It's real work and its not easy, but I'm sticking by it.


07/17/2026

"Have you prayed about it? You're just not praying enough!" You've probably heard this phrase in response to someone saying they feel depressed. This typically isn't helpful because spiritual health and mental health are two different things (though there can definitely be overlap).

People often feel worse when their problems are dismissed as simply being the result of a lack of prayer. It's quite the judgmental and unhelpful stance. Instead, ask the person what they've been experiencing and what, if anything, has felt helpful. The goal is to make no assumptions about the cause and allow the person to speak freely.

07/16/2026

So you're really going to sit over there and talk reckless to yourself? Let's cut that out. Most people are their own biggest critics. You support others and cheer for them but don't offer the same energy to self?

You are just as worthy of support and kindness as everyone else. Make it a habit to acknowledge that. Start practicing how to interrupt your internal critiques and replacing them with something more loving and compassionate.

07/15/2026

Have you ever told someone or been told not to "speak depression over yourself"? I've definitely heard it. I know people mean well, but it does nothing to eliminate depression and only increases the chance that the person feels isolated in their feelings. Instead, validate the feelings and invite them to share if you've got the time and space for that.

What are some other things people should NOT say when someone feels depressed 🤔?

07/14/2026

If you're the most stable, reliable one in your family, you can probably relate to this. You put everyone else's needs before yours because that's how its always been. You're all used to it and it works great for everyone else. Meanwhile, you're stressed to the max and can't figure out why you feel so bad.

It's because you keep sacrificing yourself. Step away from the martyrdom. You matter. Ask for the help you need and say no when you want to. There's no reason to show up for everyone else but you. Let's stop that today.

07/12/2026

How many times have tou talked yourself out of something before you even gave yourself a chance? Probably far too many. I amazes myself simply by trying something I assumed I'd fail out. Who knew i had a win in there?

How many wins do you have that you've denied yourself because you wouldn't even try?

07/10/2026

I thought I was dropping gems. Turns out I thought wrong. How embarrassing 😳, but I appreciate that my clients will correct me if something I say doesn’t resonate. They should do that. They know themselves better than I do, and I love when they're comfortable enough to get me all the way together.

They don't cuss me out though. My clients are sweet. 🤣

07/09/2026

I imagine I'll have a long list of things to work on when I retire. There will be current things I'm working on now and other things that haven't even developed yet. That's just life. Constantly evolving, constantly becoming, constantly healing. You're not behind or too slow. You're moving as quickly as your system can tolerate.

07/08/2026

Sometimes people get annoyed when therapists ask about childhood experiences. "That was so long ago. What does it have to do with what I'm facing now?"

The past and present can seem disconnected, but there are often ties between the two points. The things that happen early in life set the foundation that everything else is built on. We don't have to dwell on the past, but its often helpful to explore to find things to uproot and replace.

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12401 E 43rd Street Suite 221
Independence, MO
64055

Opening Hours

Monday 8:30am - 6pm
Tuesday 8:30am - 6pm
Wednesday 8:30am - 7:30pm
Thursday 8:30am - 7:30pm
Friday 8:30am - 6pm

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