06/12/2026
In anticipation of Father’s Day, ladies I want to speak to the men today and share an excerpt from my upcoming book- Man on Fire
*******BOOK RELEASE AUGUST 2026*******
A pillar, a story, a question for the weekend.
Most men don't fail because they're weak.
They fail because no one ever showed them what biblical manhood actually looks like.
Excerpt — Pillar 3: A real man is a servant-leader to his wife and family.
"The world tells a man that leadership is the throne. Scripture shows him it's the towel. The man who picks up the towel before anyone asks is the man his wife will follow into anything — and the man his children will spend the rest of their lives trying to become”.
The inside story.
For years I thought leading my home meant being right. Having the answer. Setting the direction. Standing at the head of the table.
It took me longer than I'd like to admit to figure out that nobody follows a man because he's right. They follow him because he serves.
I watched it slowly. Teresa Adams would carry weight I didn't even know she was carrying — the emotional load of our home, the quiet calculations.
And I'd come home from running the world thinking I was leading the family. But I wasn't leading. I was presiding. There's a difference.
Leadership without service is just authority looking for applause.
The shift came when I started asking a different question. Not "am I leading?" but "am I bending down?" Am I picking up what nobody sees me pick up?
Am I the first one to apologize when I'm wrong? Am I praying for my wife before I'm correcting her? Am I asking my kids what they need instead of telling them what I expect?
Jesus didn't lead by climbing. He led by kneeling. Towel in hand. Water in a basin. Feet that weren't His own.
Here's the part most men miss: a wife doesn't long for a king. She longs for a man who would have laid down His life for her if it came to it — and who proves it in the small things long before the big one ever comes.
A child doesn't need a CEO at the head of the table. He needs a father who'll get on the floor.
Pillar 3 isn't soft. It's the hardest pillar in the book. Because the throne is comfortable. The towel costs something every single day.
But the man who picks up the towel builds a home that doesn't crack when the world shakes it. And in a generation of cracking homes, brothers — that's the work.
The mirror.
What's one thing in your home this week that nobody is asking you to do — but a servant-leader would pick up without being asked?
Do it before Sunday. No announcement. No credit. Just bend down.
Drop it below when it's done. I'll be in the comments. 🔥
