Dr. Lori Davis

Dr. Lori Davis Based in Ithaca, NY and providing services worldwide

Dr. Lori Davis is a NP | Certified Sex Counselor | Intimacy & Relationship Coach who helps individuals and couples navigate desire, sexual health, and intimacy. I am a clinical sexologist who combines my experience as a nurse practitioner in sexual medicine with advanced training as a certified sex counselor to help folks who feel stuck in their sex lives to get tuned in and turned on again. I spe

cialize in helping otherwise loving couples who can't seem to make their sex life work to create a sexual groove that works for them.

06/18/2026

The knot hurts - and that pain is lonely.

You can’t explain it. You can’t find the words for why your body locks up around the person you love most. So you stop trying. You go quiet. You start avoiding the moments where it might come up. A hug. A lingering kiss. Going to bed at the same time.

And the more you pull back to protect yourself, the more distance grows between you. Your partner feels rejected. You feel broken. And that distance pulls the knot even tighter the next time they reach for you.

That’s the cruel loop. The knot doesn’t just live in your body. It isolates you. And the loneliness feeds it.

You’re not withholding. You’re protecting something and you are sharing yourself in the only ways you can, not because you want to hurt your partner.

And if you’re the one reaching for someone who you think might be experiencing a knot: they are not rejecting you. They’re caught in something. Send them this.

This is what I explore on this account, so FOLLOW to learn more about unwinding this stuck place...together. 🧵

Low desire? Come on. What does that even mean?Desire isn’t a tank that runs dry. Desire is just wanting. Plain and simpl...
06/15/2026

Low desire? Come on. What does that even mean?

Desire isn’t a tank that runs dry. Desire is just wanting. Plain and simple. And wanting is the natural state of being human. We are wanting creatures. So the idea that your desire and wanting just up and left? I don’t buy it.

The real questions are the ones nobody asks you. What do you want right now in this body, in this moment? Can you even find it under everything you’re carrying? What have you learned in the past about how to have your own wants and be loved at the same time?

When you say no now, can the person across from you hear it, or does your no cost you something every time?

Most people with so called “low desire,” have difficult answers to those questions. That’s not low desire. That’s a lifetime of information your body is keeping track of.

Wanting doesn’t disappear. It goes quiet when it isn’t safe, it isn’t welcome, and nobody’s listening. The work isn’t manufacturing desire you supposedly lost. It’s making it safe enough to feel your wanting, and to be heard about what you don’t want.

I call the tangle that makes wanting feel unreachable The Knot.

Does this stir something? Tell me in the comments. Save it, and send it to whoever needs to hear that their wanting was never the problem.

Follow for the way through the knot, one thread at a time.

06/09/2026

I’ve been sitting with an idea about hormone therapy that feels almost obvious once you see it, and weirdly radical at the same time.

It’s not just about getting through the symptoms. It’s about your whole identity and sense of self.

And to be clear, this isn’t only about cis women. Menopause can affect anyone with an ovarian system, and hormone therapy can be tailored to support anyone’s gendered expression.

Watch and tell me if it lands for you. You deserve to feel like yourself.

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06/09/2026

Good s*x education never gets old!

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06/08/2026

F the menopause confusion.

1. Hormone changes aren’t only a menopause thing. They show up across your whole life. Early menopause, postpartum, and other transitions can shift things too. If something feels off, it’s worth paying attention at any age.

2. Hormone therapy is a good treatment option for symptoms. Large studies have confirmed that for many people, the benefits outweigh the risks. It’s worth a real conversation with a provider who knows the current evidence, not the old fear.

3. Menopause hits different bodies differently. Black women, for example, often experience more severe and longer-lasting symptoms, and too often get taken less seriously. That’s a reason for more care, not less.

4. Trans and gender diverse folks experience menopause too. Treatment can be tailored to support your body without sacrificing your gender euphoria.

5. Menopause is not the end of your s*x life. People have great s*x across their whole lives, and you can too. If pain, or**sm changes or loss of desire are getting in the way, there are treatments for that.

If you need real support for menopause, reach out for an appointment.

Follow for honest talk about desire, menopause, and long-term relationships.

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You’ve heard the joke about menopause and running out of f*cks to give. Sometimes the first one to go is the s*x you wer...
06/05/2026

You’ve heard the joke about menopause and running out of f*cks to give. Sometimes the first one to go is the s*x you were never that into anyway.

If that’s you, nothing has gone wrong. You’re allowed to stop. You’re allowed to mean it. You don’t have to treat your “s*xual dysfunction” or take medicine to fix a problem you don’t have. Your no is not a problem for someone to solve.

And you can have that no and still have a relationship that works. Those two things are not at war, but holding both takes more than white-knuckling through it or quietly checking out. It takes real conversations with your partner and a willingness to try something new, so that what you do build actually feels good to you now.

That’s the work I do. If you want help having your no and a relationship that works, coaching is open.

Follow for honest talk about desire, menopause, and long-term relationships.

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You’ve heard the joke about menopause and running out of f*cks to give. Sometimes the first one to go is the s*x you wer...
06/05/2026

You’ve heard the joke about menopause and running out of f*cks to give. Sometimes the first one to go is the s*x you were never that into anyway.

If that’s you, nothing has gone wrong. You’re allowed to stop. You’re allowed to mean it. You don’t have to treat your “s*xual dysfunction” or take medicine to fix a problem you don’t have. Your no is not a problem for someone to solve.

And you can have that no and still have a relationship that works. Those two things are not at war, but holding both takes more than white-knuckling through it or quietly checking out. It takes real conversations with your partner and a willingness to try something new, so that what you do build actually feels good to you now.

That’s the work I do. If you want help having your no and a relationship that works, coaching is open.

Follow for honest talk about desire, menopause, and long-term relationships.

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05/23/2026

Talking about s*x is hard. Trying something new is hard… at first. Feeling awkward might be a sign that you’re headed in the right direction. Keep going. 😮‍💨

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Hi. I’m Dr. Lori Davis.I’m a nurse practitioner and s*x counselor. And I think about desire and intimacy…a lot.Specifica...
05/19/2026

Hi. I’m Dr. Lori Davis.

I’m a nurse practitioner and s*x counselor. And I think about desire and intimacy…a lot.

Specifically, what happens in relationships when one person wants more s*x than the other. Which is most relationships, at some point.

Not broken couples. Not couples who don’t love each other. Usually the opposite.

I’ve been doing this work for a while. Writing about it, teaching it, sitting with people in it. Now I’m showing up here too.

Glad you found me.

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317 North Aurora Street
Ithaca, NY
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