05/26/2026
here I go again; another experience with a contractor, another experience of being bullied! Here Are the conclusions I'm coming to. The Single older woman is more vulnerable. Duh. But it's like the elephant in the room that nobody mentions. They know you don't have any family or any ties of support. It's not normal, is the implication. You're an aberration and therefore suspect.
Each incident of bullying must be addressed in someway.
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If you don't catch it and set a boundary during the first instance, document what happened factually with no emotional reaction.
Not only are bullies parasitic feeding off of negative emotions they can pull from you, they are like children.
Bullies are like children who are seeking boundaries and will push and push and push until they hit a wall.
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They're like children who would be terrified of swimming in a pool with no walls but need the walls to reassure themselves that there is structure.
So I am learning to think of Setting emotional boundaries as structures which create safety, emotional safety not just for me, but for them!
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