08/30/2026
“You’re so pretty—why do you have a Black boyfriend?”
Maybe you’ve heard a version of this before.
From family. From elders. From someone who framed it as “concern” or even a compliment.
But underneath comments like these are ideas worth questioning.
Where did we learn that lighter skin is more desirable? That proximity to whiteness is something to aspire to? That darkness is something to fear or move away from?
Anti-Blackness does not always show up loudly. Sometimes, it lives in jokes, comments about who we date, side-eyes, or beliefs passed down so casually that we rarely stop to question where they came from.
Decolonizing the mind means being willing to look at these inherited beliefs with honesty. Not to shame ourselves or the generations before us, but to understand what history, colonization, and racial hierarchies may have taught us to normalize.
Because some of the things we inherited were survival strategies. But that does not mean we have to keep passing them on.
If this conversation makes you pause, these are some of the questions we explore inside Unlearning the Colonized Mind—through Indigenous Filipino Psychology, history, identity, and our shared experiences as Filipinos.
✨ Our final 3-week virtual cohort of 2026 is now open, and spaces are limited.
Come sit with us as we question what we inherited, reconnect with what was lost, and explore what it means to come home to ourselves and each other.
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Disclaimer: This is for informational & educational purposes only & does not constitute therapy or professional advice. This does not replace personalized therapy or consultation with a qualified mental health professional.
Mental health is influenced by complex factors like our colonization history, discrimination, patriarchy, systemic oppression, racism, educational and economic disparities, sexism, etc., and deeply impact our psychological well-being. Please explore how these broader societal issues intersect with personal mental health.