Inner Change Counseling

Inner Change Counseling Mental Health Services
Luciana Silva, licensed therapist
Clinical Psychotherapist
Trauma, Complex trauma, PTSD, and EMDR

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08/24/2026

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07/21/2026

What are you carrying that was never yours to carry? 🤍

Sometimes we carry the weight of other people’s expectations, emotions, trauma, guilt, or responsibilities and over time, we forget that we’re allowed to put them down.

You don’t have to carry everything just because you’ve been strong enough to hold it.

✨ What would it feel like to finally let go of what was never yours?

Save this as a reminder: You are allowed to choose peace. 🤍

05/21/2026

Many of us learned in childhood that anger was “too much.”
Too loud. Too disrespectful. Too dangerous.

So instead of feeling anger, we learned to suppress it.
We smiled when we were hurt.
Stayed quiet when boundaries were crossed. Became “good” while our nervous system carried the weight.

According to Dr. Gabor Maté, suppressed anger doesn’t disappear, it turns inward. It can show up as anxiety, exhaustion, people-pleasing, shame, or even physical illness.

Healing is not becoming an angry person. Healing is learning that anger is not the enemy.

Anger is information.
It says: “Something mattered to me.”
“Something hurt.”
“A boundary was crossed.”

Instead of exploding or suppressing it, try feeling it safely:
Notice it in your body.
Breathe through it.
Name it without judging it.
Let it move instead of trapping it inside.

You are allowed to feel anger without becoming harmful. Your emotions were never the problem.

05/16/2026

There’s a beautiful moment in an interview with Gabor Maté and Dr. Chatterjee where he’s asked:
“If you could live your life all over again, what would you do differently?”

Instead of talking about success, achievement, or status… he quotes Winnie-the-Pooh:
“How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.”
There’s something profoundly human in that.

Because so many of us spend our lives trying to avoid pain not realizing that love, connection, grief, and heartbreak were never separate things.

Especially for those of us with ADHD, autism, trauma, or chronic emotional stress… many learned early on to survive by disconnecting from ourselves. We became productive. Helpful. High-functioning. Independent. But underneath that survival mode was often a nervous system full of loneliness, abandonment, pressure, and the quiet ache of never truly being seen.
Dr. Maté’s words gently remind us:
A meaningful life isn’t a pain-free life.
It’s a connected one.

Maybe healing isn’t about becoming someone new. Maybe it’s finally feeling safe enough to reconnect with what was always there.

If this touches you, you’re not alone. 💛Send this to someone who needs this!

05/08/2026

Trauma isn’t simply a memory of something painful it can shape the way the mind, body, and nervous system respond to the world long after the experience has passed.

Many people living with trauma are not “too sensitive” or “overreacting.” Their nervous system adapted to survive overwhelming stress, unpredictability, or emotional pain. What may show up as anxiety, perfectionism, emotional shutdown, irritability, people-pleasing, hyper-independence, or exhaustion is often the body’s way of trying to stay safe.

Trauma can affect relationships, self-worth, trust, emotional regulation, and even physical health. Healing is not about pretending the pain never happened, it’s about helping the body and nervous system experience safety, connection, and stability again.

As Bessel van der Kolk shares in The Body Keeps the Score, healing often begins when we move from asking:
“What’s wrong with me?”
to asking:
“What happened to me?”

Your responses make sense in the context of what you have lived through.

✨ Healing begins with self-compassion, not shame.

🤍 If this message resonated with you, save this post or share it with someone who may need this reminder today.

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05/01/2026

đź’­ This is one way anxious and avoidant patterns can begin

In the 1970s, psychologist Edward Tronick conducted what’s known as the Still Face Experiment. A mother engages with her baby smiling, responding, connecting. Then suddenly, she becomes still. No expression. No response.

At first, the baby tries everything to reconnect smiling, reaching, making sounds. But when nothing changes, you can see the shift. Confusion turns into distress… and eventually, the baby looks away. The body begins to shut down as a form of protection.

This is where early relational patterns can take root not necessarily from “bad” parenting, but from moments of disconnection the nervous system couldn’t process.

đź’­ The anxious child learns:
“If I try harder, give more, reach further… maybe I’ll be seen again.”
So later in life, love can feel like effort- like chasing, proving, fixing.

đź’­ The avoidant child learns:
“No matter what I do, it doesn’t change anything… so I’ll stop trying.”
As an adult, connection can feel overwhelming or unsafe. The care is still there, it’s just hidden, because that once felt safer.

đź’­ These are not flaws.
They are adaptations ways the nervous system learned to survive in moments that felt unpredictable.

đź’­ Healing looks like teaching your body something new:
That love doesn’t have to be earned or avoided, it can feel steady and safe.
That closeness doesn’t mean losing yourself.
And space doesn’t have to mean disconnection.

Your body remembers what your mind forgot. 🤍The way you respond, protect, and connect… it was learned early.But healing ...
04/21/2026

Your body remembers what your mind forgot. 🤍
The way you respond, protect, and connect… it was learned early.

But healing is possible. You can teach your nervous system something new.

Comment “HEAL” and I’ll send you a simple tool to start.

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