08/23/2026
One of the first assignments I give my Certified Fibromyalgia Advisor® students is to write down 10 things that bring them joy.
Do you know what happens?
…. Nothing.
Just a long, awkward pause where they're staring at the page thinking, “I don’t know. What brings me joy?” 🫣
Ten is HARD — and most people feel ashamed when they can't do it, like they've lost touch with themselves.
But that blank page isn’t a judgment.
It’s information.
And yes, I mean a blank page tells us as much as a full one would!
It tells me you’ve been giving things up one at a time — the thing that cost too much energy, the thing that always caused a flare, the thing you cancelled on so many times they stopped inviting you.
You didn’t decide to shrink your life.
It happened in fifty small moments, until one day someone asks you what you enjoy and you honestly don’t know. 💜
This week, Jeannette wrote about joy not being something you earn after you've been productive enough.
I’ll add one thing to that:
For a lot of us, joy isn't just postponed. It's been erased, one cancelled plan at a time.
And you can't choose from a list you no longer have.
Rebuilding your Joy List is real work. It means figuring out what your body can really do, what's worth the energy, and what you might be ready to put back into your life.
That's exactly the kind of thing a Certified Fibromyalgia Coach® can help you do.
Not more advice about what you SHOULD be doing.
Someone who has lived this, who can look at your life with you and help you decide what goes back in — and in what order.
She can even share what works in her own life, which might be the difference between doing what you enjoy again or not.
You don't have to figure this out alone.
📸 In New York City for the premiere of INVISIBLE, the fibromyalgia feature documentary, with my dear friends Melissa and Julie. Talk about something that belongs on my joy list. 💜
👉 Schedule a consultation with a coach and start getting your life back.
https://FindAFibroCoach.com
