02/16/2022
In a way, I talk about this with so many of my clients. We often have a goal, something we see that we THINK we want to change. But that is usually wrong. The changes we truly seek happen when we dive in and have a deep awareness of who we think we are, and what we think is lacking. This is a painful process, and it's deeply subconscious.
In strategizing to accomplish a goal, we attempt to avoid the pain of diving into our inner childhood wounds. We want to control the process, we want to avoid being vulnerable. We sell ourselves short and we continue acting out of a false identity that will likely never get what we think we are searching for in a cognitive strategy.
There will never be enough attention if I believe I’m unlovable.
There will never be enough money if I believe money is my safety.
Nobody will ever be enough if I believe they hold my safety.
Nothing will ever be enough if I believe that my salvation exists in some elusive, future state.
It's okay to have goals, but who do you think you are and what will you get from these goals?
In my opinion, healing takes discipline and time. It is the process of reworking our human identity, and then we show up differently and our goals change. Results take time. The process is painful. The only way out is through.
Check out the workshop starting March 7th if you are starting your journey, or want a fun process to join. Link in bio.
Yellow Arrow Counseling is also accepting new clients who reside in Washington state.
