07/20/2026
There are a handful of trainings I can point to that genuinely changed the trajectory of my work as a therapist. The EFCT Externship is one of them.
I still remember leaving my Externship feeling like someone had handed me a new set of eyes.
I'd been doing good work. I cared deeply about my clients, had strong clinical training, and felt pretty confident in the therapy room. But I also knew there were moments (especially with couples) where I understood what was happening, but wasn't always sure how to help people move somewhere different. The Externship changed that.
It gave me something I didn't have before: a map. Suddenly I could make sense of the patterns that kept couples stuck, understand what was happening beneath the conflict, and know where to go when sessions felt like they were spinning in circles. Instead of trying to solve the content of the argument, I learned how to work with the emotional process driving it.
More than any technique, though, the Externship transformed the way I saw people. I stopped seeing criticism, withdrawal, anger, and shutdown as problems to fix and began seeing them as deeply human attempts to protect connection. That shift made me a more grounded, more effective, and more hopeful therapist. It changed not only my couples work, but my individual therapy, consultation, and even the way I understand my own relationships.
Years later, I can honestly say that taking the Externship remains one of the most transformational decisions I've made in my development as a therapist. It continues to shape the way I practice every single day.
This September, PCEFT is hosting our next EFCT Externship. If you've been curious about Emotionally Focused Therapy—or if you're looking for a model that is both deeply grounded in attachment science and profoundly human—I can't recommend it enough. Whether you're brand new to EFT or looking for a foundation that will reshape the way you practice, I think you'll leave seeing therapy, relationships, and your clients in an entirely new way.
I hope you'll join us this September. Link to register in the comments!
- TJ
PCEFT Board Member