The Holistic Grief Coach

The Holistic Grief Coach Rachel “Saf” Safyurtlu, MA
Certified Grief Educator
Grief · Trauma · Life Transitions
Trauma-Informed | Evidence-Based
💫 Author of Dixy the Pixy

We’ve all heard the saying, “Time heals all wounds.”Yet many people carry grief, trauma, heartbreak, and painful experie...
06/14/2026

We’ve all heard the saying, “Time heals all wounds.”Yet many people carry grief, trauma, heartbreak, and painful experiences for years—even decades.

Research suggests that healing is often supported by experiences of safety. When the nervous system no longer has to spend all of its energy surviving, there may be more capacity to feel, process, and integrate what has been carried.

This is one reason why healing isn’t always linear, and why some emotions don’t surface until life finally feels a little safer.

Have you ever noticed grief or old emotions emerge during a season when things were actually going well?

06/13/2026

Many of us weren’t grieving the person who was. We were grieving the future we imagined.

There can be a lot of heartache in caring deeply for someone while realizing their journey belongs to them.

If this resonates, I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments.

06/13/2026

To the one who fell in love with potential and knows the ache of grieving who they never became…

The problem was never seeing their potential.

It was believing their healing was your responsibility.

Healing is recognizing that your gift is seeing possibility and trusting that each person must walk their own path.

I see you.

One of the most hopeful things neuroscience has taught us is that change remains possible throughout our lives.Many of u...
06/13/2026

One of the most hopeful things neuroscience has taught us is that change remains possible throughout our lives.

Many of us developed patterns that helped us survive loss, trauma, difficult relationships, or overwhelming circumstances. Those patterns can become deeply familiar, even when they no longer serve us.

Time and again, I witness people develop new ways of relating to grief, to themselves, and to the world around them.

Your past doesn’t have to be a life sentence. Your story may have shaped you, but it doesn’t have to be the final chapter.

What is one pattern you’ve worked to change in your own life?

06/12/2026

Many people think healing means the pain disappears or that grief eventually stops showing up.

What I’ve witnessed, both personally and professionally, is that healing often looks more like building a different relationship with the waves.

The reminders may still come. The anniversaries may still sting. The longing may still visit.

Over time, many people discover a growing trust in their ability to navigate what once felt impossible.

What has grief taught you about your own resilience?

06/11/2026

When someone dies by su***de, it can be difficult to separate the person from the way they died.

The shock, unanswered questions, guilt, anger, and heartbreak can make that final chapter feel larger than everything that came before it.

Yet every person is so much more than the circumstances of their death.

They were a friend, a parent, a sibling, a partner, a child. They had gifts, quirks, dreams, struggles, strengths, and people who loved them.

If you have lost someone to su***de, my hope for you is that, over time, the way they left this world does not overshadow the beautiful person they were.

If you’d like, share something you want others to remember about them. 💙

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06/10/2026

Today I walked the grounds of my first elementary school.

I found myself thinking about the children who work so hard to adapt to environments that feel overwhelming.

Many of us learned early to push through discomfort, override our instincts, and focus on fitting in. Those skills can help us navigate the world, but sometimes they come with a hidden cost.

Years later, there can be grief in realizing how often we ignored our own needs.

Part of healing is learning to reconnect with ourselves—to notice what we feel, honor what we need, and trust our inner experience.

And for parents, perhaps the question isn’t only, “How do I help my child succeed?” It’s also, “How do I help my child stay connected to themselves while they do?”

If you discovered your sensitivity, neurodivergence, or nervous system needs later in life, you’re not alone. ❤️

What is something you understand about yourself now that you wish you’d known as a child?

06/09/2026

We often expect grief to happen immediately after a divorce. But many people are focused on surviving, protecting their children, rebuilding their lives, and putting one foot in front of the other.

Sometimes the grief comes later because you finally have enough space to feel it.

If this resonates, let me know how long it took before your grief surfaced. I have a feeling many people need to hear they’re not alone.♥️

06/08/2026

If you’re new here, I thought I’d introduce myself.

Sixteen years ago, I became a bereaved mother when my son Dylan was stillborn. That experience changed the trajectory of my life.

What followed were other significant losses and transitions, including divorce, becoming a single mother, and learning how to rebuild a life that looked very different from the one I had imagined.

Before any of that happened, I had already earned my Bachelor’s Degree in Psychology, completed my Master’s Degree in Counseling, and was teaching yoga. I was passionate about helping people long before grief became part of my story.

But grief deepened my understanding of what it means to be human.

It taught me that healing isn’t about “getting over” loss. It’s about learning how to carry it while continuing to live, love, and grow.

Today, I specialize in grief support and help individuals and couples, groups, and the community navigate loss, life transitions, and healing through trauma-informed, evidence-based approaches, mindfulness, movement, and nature.

If you’ve experienced grief of any kind or if you’re simply trying to find your way through a difficult season, I’m glad you’re here.

I’d love to know: How did we find each other?

06/07/2026

They say pain needs to be witnessed.

I believe healing does too.

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