Althought Therapy

Althought Therapy Specializing in Personality, Individual & Couples Therapy, with a Focus on Pregnancy & Postpartum

As a dedicated Clinical Psychologist in Lakewood, CO, I specialize in couples therapy and individual therapy, offering a compassionate and evidence-based approach to support your mental health and relationship goals. With specialized training in pregnancy and postpartum therapy, I am committed to providing personalized care tailored to your unique needs. Whether you're seeking help for personal growth or relationship improvement, my goal is to guide you towards a healthier, more fulfilling life. Contact me today to schedule a consultation and take the first step on your path to well-being.

09/11/2026

Why do I feel selfish for having needs?
You want more help, more space, more consideration, or something to change—and almost immediately you start minimizing it.
People-pleasing can make ordinary relationship needs feel like evidence that you’re demanding or difficult.
But a need gives you information. It does not automatically tell you anything about your character.
Selfishness is a judgment.

09/07/2026

Why does self-doubt make you feel like you’re under a microscope?
When self-doubt is already high, your attention can become disproportionately focused on yourself—what you said, how you came across, whether you did something wrong.
It can feel like careful self-reflection. But self-doubt has its own bias.
If you’re always the thing being examined, you’re probably not looking at the whole picture.

09/06/2026

Why do I say yes and regret it immediately?
You agree to the dinner, favor, plan, or extra responsibility—and five minutes later you feel that drop.
That doesn’t always mean you changed your mind.
With people-pleasing or difficulty saying no, sometimes the answer comes out before you’ve even checked what you actually want.
The regret isn’t the problem. It may be the first moment you actually heard yourself.

09/04/2026

Why do I apologize before asking for anything? \n\n“Sorry to bother you.” “Sorry, can I ask you something?” “Sorry, I know you’re busy.”

Apologizing can be simple politeness. But apologizing too much can also become a way of shrinking your needs before anyone else has a chance to react to them.

Sometimes the apology is really asking: Am I allowed to take up this much space?

09/04/2026

Why do I panic when I think someone is mad at me?
You notice one small social cue — they hug everyone else but not you — and suddenly your brain starts replaying everything.
Did I say something wrong?
Are they upset with me?
Did someone tell them something?
That spiral can show up with social anxiety, relationship anxiety, overthinking, hypervigilance, and reassurance seeking.
Sometimes the question underneath all of it is much simpler:
“Are we still okay?”

09/03/2026

Why do I feel guilty when someone is disappointed in me?
If you struggle with people-pleasing, saying no, or setting boundaries, someone else’s disappointment can make you question yourself almost instantly.
You may start apologizing, changing your answer, or trying to make it work—even when nothing actually went wrong.
Sometimes the hard part isn’t the decision.
It’s tolerating the fact that someone else may not like it.
Their disappointment does not automatically mean you made the wrong choice.

Can anxiety actually be helpful? Yes—especially before something important.Anxiety is part of the body’s normal stress r...
09/02/2026

Can anxiety actually be helpful? Yes—especially before something important.

Anxiety is part of the body’s normal stress response. Before a presentation, exam, first date, or hard conversation, the activation that comes with anxiety can increase alertness, mobilize energy, and motivate you to prepare.

Anxiety stops being useful when it becomes too intense, lasts after the moment has passed, makes it hard to think clearly, or turns into overthinking, avoidance, freezing, reassurance-seeking, or constant checking.

You may hear recovery after stress described as “completing the stress cycle.” A more precise way to think about it is helping your body recover once the stressor is over.

Breathing exercises can help—but they are not your only anxiety coping tool. A 10–20-minute walk is one practical starting point, not a magic dose. You can also stretch or shake out tension, or slowly look around the room and notice what is actually here now.

Nervous system regulation does not mean feeling calm all the time.

It means staying flexible enough to respond to what the moment requires—and helping your system settle when the moment is over.

Save this for the next time you feel anxious before something important.

Share it with someone who believes feeling nervous means they’re doing something wrong.

Follow .samanthaawalt for evidence-based psychology on anxiety, overthinking, self-trust, boundaries, and healthier relationships.

Research:
Jamieson, Nock & Mendes (2012), Journal of Experimental Psychology: General
Eysenck et al. (2007), Emotion
Brosschot, Gerin & Thayer (2006), Journal of Psychosomatic Research
Connor et al. (2023), Sports
Bonanno & Burton (2013), Perspectives on Psychological Science

09/01/2026

Why do I watch someone’s face while I’m talking?
You’re talking, but part of your attention is watching their expression.
Did that land wrong?
Are they annoyed?
Did something change?
That can look like being socially aware, but constantly reading facial expressions can also show up with hypervigilance, social anxiety, or people-pleasing.
If you’re constantly reading the room, you’re never fully in the room.

09/01/2026

Can people-pleasing make you feel lonely in relationships.
People may genuinely like you. You may be flexible, easy to be around, and rarely create conflict.
But if people rarely know what you disagree with, what disappoints you, or what you actually want, people-pleasing can create connection without much intimacy.
Being liked and being known are not the same thing.

08/31/2026

Why do I always talk myself out of my own feelings? \n\nSelf-doubt can sound surprisingly reasonable: maybe they were stressed, maybe you misunderstood, maybe you’re being too sensitive. \n\nConsidering someone else’s perspective matters. But if every explanation for them becomes a reason to distrust your own feelings, that’s worth noticing. \n\nAt some point, you may not be trying to understand what happened anymore. You may be looking for a reason not to believe yourself.

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