Althought Therapy

Althought Therapy Specializing in Personality, Individual & Couples Therapy, with a Focus on Pregnancy & Postpartum

As a dedicated Clinical Psychologist in Lakewood, CO, I specialize in couples therapy and individual therapy, offering a compassionate and evidence-based approach to support your mental health and relationship goals. With specialized training in pregnancy and postpartum therapy, I am committed to providing personalized care tailored to your unique needs. Whether you're seeking help for personal gr

owth or relationship improvement, my goal is to guide you towards a healthier, more fulfilling life. Contact me today to schedule a consultation and take the first step on your path to well-being.

07/29/2026

Feeling lonely in a marriage when you're not actually alone.

Same house. Same room, even. And you've said it every way you know how — you rehearsed it, softened it, picked the right moment, tried again plainly. Then finally not carefully at all.

That's what high functioning anxiety looks like inside a relationship. Not panic. Over-explaining. Managing how it lands while you're still saying it.

Of course you're exhausted. You've been doing both jobs — saying the thing and making sure it goes okay.

Two things can both be true. They're not trying to miss you. And you're still not being met.

Send this to the person you've been trying to explain yourself to.

07/28/2026

Why do my partner and I keep having the same fight over and over?

If you're always fighting about chores — the dishes, the laundry, whose turn it was — the fight is almost never about the chores. It's about the mental load.

The mental load is the invisible labor of running a home: noticing what needs doing, tracking it, planning it, remembering it. When one partner carries most of that emotional labor, the dishes in the sink stop being dishes. They become proof: I'm the only one paying attention. That's where the resentment in the relationship actually comes from — not the plate, the pattern.

And from the other side? He hears "you never help" and stops listening at "never," because that word erases everything he does do.

So you're both right, and you're both unheard, and the same fight keeps showing up wearing different dishes.

Two things can be true: you're exhausted from carrying the mental load, and your partner isn't the villain. The pattern is.

Ready to have this conversation without it turning into the same fight? Comment "LIST" and I'll DM you my free script for talking about the mental load — the exact words to say so your partner can finally hear it. 👇

Underneath almost every argument about chores, schedules, and who-did-what, there's a quieter sentence waiting to be sai...
07/27/2026

Underneath almost every argument about chores, schedules, and who-did-what, there's a quieter sentence waiting to be said: I just want to feel seen.
Seen for the noticing. Heard when you explain the weight of it. Valued for all the invisible managing. Understood without having to hand over an itemized list of everything you carry.
That's not needy. That's not asking too much. That's what a partnership is supposed to feel like.
So if the fights at your house keep circling the same small things — pause and ask what the fight is actually about. It's almost never the dishes. It's almost always this.
💬 Which one do you need most right now — seen, heard, valued, or understood? Tell me in one word.
📤 Send this to your partner instead of starting the argument. Let it say the hard part for you.
💌 Want the script for that conversation? Comment "LIST" and I'll DM it to you.

07/27/2026

Why do I feel guilty when I don’t text back?

Here’s the sequence: you didn’t want to reply. The guilt showed up anyway. So you sent it — overriding the part of you that said no. And then you spent the next two hours ruminating: did I say the right thing? Did I say too much? How are they going to respond?

Notice what happened there. You took a vote from everyone — the guilt, the imagined reaction, the “shoulds” — everyone except the first voice. The one that had already answered.

The rumination isn’t the problem. It’s the receipt. It’s what it costs to act against your own answer.

Somewhere along the way, you learned not to count your own vote. That’s the thing we work on — not the texting.

Send this to your favorite overthinker. They’re probably rereading a sent message right now. 💛

You don't build self-trust all at once. You build it one promise at a time.The smallest moments often matter the most.Ev...
07/26/2026

You don't build self-trust all at once. You build it one promise at a time.

The smallest moments often matter the most.

Every time you follow through—even when it's uncomfortable—you give yourself another piece of evidence that you can count on yourself.

What's one small promise you can keep to yourself today? Start there. 💚

07/26/2026

Setting Boundaries as a People Pleaser: Overcoming Guilt and Self-Criticism
We talk about the struggle of setting boundaries as a people pleaser, the guilt and self-criticism that follows saying no, and the importance of checking in with yourself before giving an answer.
SelfLove PersonalGrowth

07/25/2026

We talk about the common cycle in couple arguments where both partners repeat themselves trying to be heard, leading to escalation and frustration. We emphasize the importance of pausing to listen instead of just defending your position, so you don’t walk away feeling unseen and misunderstood.
EmotionalIntelligence HealthyRelationships

07/25/2026

You could recite his half of the argument word for word. He could recite yours.
That’s the thing about the recurring fight — it stopped being a conversation a long time ago. It’s a script. And you’re both stuck performing it, hoping this time it ends differently.
It won’t change with better points. It changes when someone says something that isn’t in the script.
If you just heard your living room in this, send it to the other person in it. Not as a jab — as “I think we’re both tired of the script.”

Your brain isn't actually searching for certainty. It's searching for safety.The problem is that certainty is impossible...
07/25/2026

Your brain isn't actually searching for certainty. It's searching for safety.

The problem is that certainty is impossible.

The more you chase it, the more anxious you become—and the more your brain mistakes that anxiety as proof you shouldn't move forward.

What's one area of your life where you've been waiting to feel completely certain before taking the next step? Tell me below. 💭

Why do we have the same fight over and over? Because the fight was never about what it's about. Maybe your recurring arg...
07/24/2026

Why do we have the same fight over and over? Because the fight was never about what it's about. Maybe your recurring argument is really this: you're both asking to be understood at the exact same moment — so nobody's left to do the understanding. That's not a broken relationship. That's two people who still care what the other one thinks. You don't need a referee — you need to finally hear what's underneath. DM me "THOUGHT" for The Thoughts You Can't Say Out Loud, free — and send this to your person if the dishes have ever started a war.

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