06/04/2026
I’ll let you in on a secret: I never ask my clients to do a single piece of inner work that I haven't or wouldn't do myself.
There is a common belief that therapists have it all figured out. We are often pictured sitting on a pristine pedestal, entirely untouched by life's messy transitions, grief, or anxiety.
But that is not how real healing works.
Before I ever ask a client to untangle a painful pattern, or confront a lifelong habit of perfectionism, I look at my own roots first. I regularly sit on the other side of the couch with my own therapist to do the deep, uncomfortable work.
Because of that, I know exactly what it feels like to have your heart race when you are being vulnerable. I know the sheer exhaustion of trying to keep up a strong exterior when you actually feel completely overwhelmed inside.
Therapy is not a clinical expert diagnosing a broken person. It is a deeply human, shared experience.
We are simply fellow travelers on this trail of life. When you finally decide to step out of your comfort zone and face the things holding you back, you can rest assured that you are being guided by someone who knows the terrain. 🤍