Lynn Ereshena Manning LCSW

06/06/2026

It’s always good to practice being mindful… 🍃 ☀️ life has so many ups and downs. This practice can support you in the hard times.

06/06/2026

Be proactive in your life!! 🌈☀️Time is precious 🌺

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06/06/2026

Enmeshment is not a healthy boundary for your own growth… nor your partner… Flourish in your separateness 🍃🌱 and your relationship will flourish too!

There is a version of togetherness that gets mistaken for deep love because it is so total. The couple who does everything together. Who are never apart. Who share not just their lives but their emotional experience so completely that one person's anxiety immediately becomes the other person's anxiety. One person's bad day becomes a household crisis. One person's mood is the weather system that everyone else organizes around.

This is enmeshment. And while it often grows out of a genuine desire for closeness, it actually makes real closeness harder to achieve, because real closeness requires two distinct people.

When the boundaries between partners become too permeable, both people begin to lose access to their own interior experience. It becomes difficult to know what we actually feel versus what we are picking up from our partner. Our own preferences, values, and even thoughts become entangled with theirs. We lose the individual self that genuine intimacy requires.

What we think of as the two-ness of healthy couplehood means two full, distinct individuals who bring themselves, genuinely and separately, to a shared life. Having opinions that differ from your partner's. Having friendships that belong to you. Having moods that your partner can be curious about rather than immediately absorbed by. Having an inner life that is yours.

This does not diminish the closeness of a relationship. It deepens it. Because when two whole people choose each other, the choice is real.

We have resources on individuality within partnership in our bio.

06/04/2026

You are not alone 🍃☀️

06/04/2026

Small, Acts of kindness can make a difference. Be that person!! 🌈☀️

06/03/2026

Assess this as you make plans for the summer. 🌈☀️

06/03/2026

Focus less on things outside your control on more on what you choose to do

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06/01/2026

You so got this!!!! 🥳

You've got this! I'm cheering you on!

06/01/2026

Don’t let boredom win!!! 👍🏼😊

Many people want success, but few learn how to tolerate the boredom that often creates it

05/30/2026

This is what not to do as a parent. 🙁

Last night I watched “The Crash” on Netflix. It’s masterclass on enabling. It is so incredibly important for children to be raised with clear boundaries and with the ability to face the natural consequences of their behavior. Behavior is communication. Life teaches us through feedback is that communication is healthy or dysfunctional. Ideally, parent figures don’t shield their children from the feedback life gives. That’s how humans learn. When we’re enabled, it can actually lead us to being disabled— because no one allows us face ourselves and our actions. Instead, we live in a false reality of avoidance that lets us feel good (temporarily), but deeply harms us long term.

Enabling is the root cause of so much of what we call “evil” in our society