R. Alex Colston, LMFT

05/29/2026

There is no destination.

Just the path.
And yours is the only one you need to worry about.

Keep walking,
-Alex

05/28/2026

I know that I was extremely lucky.

I had a mentor who from the first time I met her proclaimed, "I am attachment to the core... I am affect to the core (meaning emotionally/experiencially-driven)."

I wonder if she was trying to make sure I knew what I was getting into? Or if she was just deeply confident in who she was as a helper/healer...?

Either way, her energy was magnetic. And whatever tea she was drinking, I wanted it.

In my clinical training, I was never sold the lie of needing specifics credentials, titles, or trainings (beyond my graduate and supervision experiences... beyond the attachment-based systems frameworks I was trained in)... in order to be good enough as a therapist.

During and after graduate school, I know I was again lucky to have had countless other mentors who deeply understood, believed, and lived out the beauty of attachment theory in their clinical work and in their relationships with me.

As the late (and great) Dr Karyn Purvis said, "This is just the stuff of relationships..."

To be human, to be full of life, to experience everything - the good and the dark - is most of what it takes... a healthy dose of compassionate presence and humor are also helpful.

I know I was lucky. I'm also deeply grateful for that luck.

And so... You won't find me running in the next EBP race, pursuing additional letters behind my name, or chasing more certifications.

I'll stick with what I know... with what works... with what gets the bad*ss results.

Because, honestly, it's all we need (I'm speaking of the decades of supporting research and the thousands of years of humans healing other humans that resulted in the Attachment Theory we know today).

"It's just the stuff of human relationships." - Dr Karyn Purvis

"We're all just walking each other home." - Ram Dass

Interested in this work?

I'd love to get you set up (just send a message and let's get on with it).

Rooting for you,
-Alex

05/28/2026

05/28/2026

Many associate therapists aren’t just looking for supervision hours anymore.

They’re looking for a place where they can actually become the therapist they hoped they’d be when they first entered this field.

A place where they can ask difficult questions without feeling judged.

A place where they can learn how to hold clinical complexity without losing themselves in the process.

Too many newer therapists are quietly burning out while trying to prove they’re capable enough to stay in the room.

My approach to supervision is deeply relational, attachment-oriented, and development-focused. In addition to clinical skill-building and case conceptualization, I care deeply about helping therapists:

-develop a strong clinical identity,
-strengthen emotional attunement,
-understand relational dynamics more deeply,
-navigate imposter syndrome,
-and build sustainable careers that don’t come at the expense of their own wellbeing.

This is a space where therapists can think critically, grow honestly, and develop confidence without needing to posture or pretend.

I also know that the licensure process in Kentucky can feel overwhelming at times, so I work hard to provide supervision that is both deeply supportive and professionally organized. This includes clear expectations, structured documentation, attention to Kentucky board requirements, and guidance around navigating the licensure process itself.

If this feels like something you’re looking for, I’d love the chance to support you on the supervision path.

And if you’re already licensed, or not in the MFT world, adding supplemental clinical consultation is always possible (YOU decide how you access support for the work you do).

Rooting for y’all!

-Alex

05/24/2026

Stop taking free quizzes.

Not because they’re evil.
Not because attachment theory & “self-help” isn’t helpful.

But because most info algorithms and AI-generated campaigns are using information as a cheap hit of dopamine.

-You get a result.
-Feel seen for 14 minutes.
-Read three paragraphs.
-Watch six TikToks.
-Maybe cry a little.

And then nothing changes.

Because recognition is not the same thing as integration.
Insight doesn’t create change.

For example: Knowing your attachment style intellectually is not the same thing as understanding how it shaped your your worldview and continues to impact your unique story:

Your stress.
Your relationships.
Your burnout.
Your overthinking.
Your loneliness.
Your inability to rest.
Your fear of disappointing people.
Your emotional shutdown.
Your perfectionism.

Generic results will never reveal your story.

You are not “the average anxiously attached person.”
You are not “the average avoidant.”
You are not an algorithm.

You are a human being with a unique history and a specific nervous system and a human story.

That story deserves personalized interpretation, not mass-produced insight.
You don’t need more information anymore.

You need clarity.
You need a starting point.

And I'm here to help if you're ready for that.

Rooting for you,
And hoping you find exactly what (or who) you need.

-Alex

05/22/2026

You don't need more self-help content.

Heck... You probably don't even need more therapy.

But you may need a way to make sense of why you feel so disconnected...
From yourself
From your work
From showing up the way you want in your relationships.

That's what an attachment style assessment can offer you:
A way to make sense of YOU and your story.

Find out more here: https://www.alexcolstonlmft.com/attachment-style-assessment

05/21/2026

You cannot navigate from a location you haven’t identified yet.

That’s why an attachment style assessment matters.

Not as a label.
Not as an identity.
Not as an excuse.

But as clarity.
And clarity changes people faster than shame ever will.

05/20/2026

A weird realization I’ve had over the past few years:

I didn’t actually need more self-help content.

I didn’t need another productivity framework.

Another nervous system hack.
Another “5 signs you’re healing.”
Another morning routine.
Another person online telling me who I should become.

What I actually needed was an experience that helped me finally locate myself.

Because for a long time, I wasn’t really living my life.

I was living from adaptation.
From survival.
From performance.
From obligation.

From “I should want this.”
“I should be grateful.”
“I should stay.”
“I should try harder.”
“I should be better by now.”

And when you live there long enough, you slowly lose contact with your own voice.

You become incredibly good at functioning…
while feeling deeply disconnected from yourself.

That’s the part nobody talks about enough.

Most people are not lacking information.
They’re drowning in it.

What they’re lacking is clarity.

A coherent explanation for why they feel stuck in patterns they intellectually understand but emotionally cannot seem to leave.

That’s why I became so passionate about assessment work and deeper relational healing.

Not because I think people need more labels.

But because people need language.
People need context.
People need accurate mirrors.
People need experiences that help them make sense of their story.

Because once you can finally see yourself clearly, everything starts changing.

Not overnight.
Not magically.

But you stop living from constant self-correction.

And you start making choices that actually feel like yours.

That shift alone changes everything:

From:
“What am I supposed to do with my life?”

To:
“What kind of life do I actually want to create?”

That’s the work that matters to me now.

Not teaching people how to become a “better” version of themselves.

Helping them reconnect with the person they were before survival convinced them they had to abandon themselves to be loved, safe, successful, or accepted.

05/20/2026

We cannot navigate from a location we haven’t identified yet.

That’s why assessments matter. A real starting point...

Not as labels.
Not as identities.
Not as excuses.

But as clarity.
And clarity changes people faster than shame ever will.