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Uplift Therapy LLC I work to help individuals, couples, and families improve their lives and relationships.

This can be achieved by overcoming trauma, anger, depression, anxiety, life adjustments, and other stressors that affect all of us at some time in our lives.

09/04/2026

Beyond “Daddy Issues”: What Attachment Can Teach Us About Adult Relationships

Pop culture often uses phrases like “daddy issues” as a joke or explanation for why someone chooses certain partners or behaves a certain way in relationships.

But the reality is much more complex—and much more human.

Our earliest relationships can shape what we come to understand about love, safety, connection, and our own worth. This isn't about blaming one parent. It's about recognizing that our experiences can influence the relational patterns we carry into adulthood.

Attachment experiences may impact:

• How we form relationships — Do we feel comfortable trusting and depending on others, or does closeness feel unsafe?

• Who we are drawn to — Sometimes, what feels familiar can feel more attractive than what is actually healthy.

• What we tolerate — We may stay in relationships that recreate dynamics we've experienced before, even when they cause us pain.

• How we respond to distance or conflict — Some people pursue connection when they fear abandonment, while others pull away when intimacy feels overwhelming.

• What we believe we have to do to be loved — Do we feel worthy of love as we are, or do we believe we must earn it by pleasing, performing, fixing, or over-functioning?

Understanding attachment is about being curious.

Why does this dynamic feel so familiar?
Why am I drawn to people who are emotionally unavailable?
Why is it difficult to leave relationships that hurt me?
Why does healthy love sometimes feel unfamiliar or even boring?

The good news is that attachment patterns are not life sentences. With awareness, reflection, and healthy relationships, we can begin to develop new ways of experiencing connection.

Sometimes healing begins when we stop asking, “What's wrong with me?”

& start asking, “What did I learn about love, and is that lesson still serving me?”

09/02/2026

September is Su***de Prevention Awareness Month. đź’ś

This month is a reminder that we don't always know what someone may be carrying beneath the surface. Be kind.

Let's continue creating spaces where conversations about mental health are met with compassion rather than judgment. Let's ask the people we love how they're really doing. & let's remember that sometimes simply being present can be powerful.

You matter. Your life matters. & there is hope, even when it's difficult to see it.

If you or someone you know is in immediate crisis, call or text 988 to connect with the Su***de & Crisis Lifeline.

đź’ś You are not alone.

08/24/2026

A question I hear often: "How do I get my family member/friend to go to therapy when they don't think anything is wrong?"

The difficult truth is: you usually can't make someone ready for therapy.

You may see the drinking.
You may see the anger.
You may see the isolation.
You may see how their behavior is affecting the family.
You may even be watching them struggle in ways they don't seem to recognize.

And it can be incredibly frustrating when the person you love doesn't see what feels obvious to you.

But telling someone, "You need therapy," often doesn't create the openness we're hoping for. Sometimes it creates defensiveness, shame, or an even stronger desire to prove that nothing is wrong.

Instead, try starting with your concern:
"I've noticed you've been struggling lately, and I'm worried about you."
"I've noticed we've been having more conflict, and I miss feeling connected to you."
"Is there anything you're struggling with that you don't feel comfortable talking about?"

And remember: therapy doesn't have to begin with someone agreeing that they have a problem.
Sometimes the first step is simply becoming curious about what isn't working.

You can invite.
You can express concern.
You can offer resources.
You can set boundaries around behaviors that are affecting you.

But you cannot do someone else's work for them.

And if they continue to say no, that doesn't mean you have to remain stuck.

You can seek therapy yourself to learn how to communicate differently, establish boundaries, cope with the situation, and understand what is—and isn't—in your control.

Sometimes the most important question isn't: "How do I get them into therapy?"
It's: "What can I do to take care of myself and change my part of the relationship?"

08/10/2026

It is time to bring postpartum mental health back into the conversation—and there are important conversations we need to have about postpartum depression and postpartum psychosis.

Postpartum depression (PPD) can involve persistent sadness, hopelessness, anxiety, guilt, loss of interest, difficulty bonding, sleep and appetite changes, and thoughts of death or self-harm.

Postpartum psychosis (PPP) is much rarer (1 to 2 out of 1,000 women after childbirth). It can involve hallucinations, delusions, paranoia, severe confusion, disorganized thinking, and a significant loss of contact with reality. A person experiencing psychosis may also have limited insight into what is happening to them. Immediate medical attention is recommended when postpartum psychosis is suspected.

And this brings up an important part of mental health treatment that doesn't always get discussed:

Mental health providers can only assess what they can see, what they are told, and the information available to them.

A provider can ask about depression. They can ask about suicidal thoughts. They can ask about intrusive thoughts. They can screen for bipolar symptoms and psychosis. They can assess changes in behavior, functioning, sleep, and safety.

People may minimize symptoms because of shame, fear of hospitalization, fear of being judged, fear of losing their children, or simply because they don't recognize that what they're experiencing is a symptom of an illness.

It means we need a culture where people feel safe enough to answer them honestly.

The goal is to understand how we can recognize these conditions earlier, create safer systems of care, and make it easier for people to tell the truth about what they're experiencing.

And sometimes the most important question isn't, "Why didn't anyone know?"

It's: "What would have made it safer for this person to tell someone what was really happening?"

08/05/2026

Loving someone through addiction is one of the greatest relational paradoxes.

A question worth asking isn't: "How do I get them to change?"
It's: "How do I remain compassionate without abandoning myself?"

The instinct is often to do more.
To rescue. To protect. To prevent another crisis.

đź’š Support says:

"I love you, and I'm here when you're ready for help."
"I'll help you find a therapist or treatment program."
"I'll go with you to your first meeting."
"I believe you're capable of recovery."
"I'm willing to support your recovery—not your addiction."

⚠️ Enabling often looks like:

Repeatedly rescuing them from the consequences of their choices.
Making excuses for their behavior.
Giving money when it's likely to support substance use.
Taking on responsibilities that belong to them.
Sacrificing your own well-being in an attempt to keep the peace.

Sometimes the deepest act of love is refusing to take over a burden that isn't yours to carry. Boundaries are not the opposite of love. They are often what allow love to survive.

Supporting someone doesn't mean removing every consequence or solving every problem. It means staying connected to the person while refusing to partner with the addiction.

Sometimes healing begins when both people are allowed to step out of the roles that addiction assigned them.

07/28/2026

Many couples don't realize they're no longer relating as partners—they're relating through the roles they've adopted.

Over time, one partner can become consumed by responsibility - the laundry, the dishes, the bills, the schedule, the children, the mental load. Eventually, responsibility becomes more than something they do—it becomes who they feel they have to be.

The other partner may not experience the same sense of urgency. They may feel criticized, micromanaged, or unsure how to contribute in a way that feels "good enough."

Before long, the relationship shifts from two equal partners to one who manages and one who is managed, which can feel like a parent-child dynamic.

The goal isn't for one partner to become more responsible or the other to become more carefree. It's to help each person reconnect with the parts of themselves that have been overshadowed.

Sometimes the most loving thing you can do for your partner isn't to take another task off their plate—it's to remind them they are allowed to rest, laugh, be playful, and experience joy without earning it.

Ask yourself:

What part of my partner comes alive because of me?
What part of them has been buried beneath stress, responsibility, or survival?
How can our relationship become a place where that part feels safe to emerge again?

Healthy relationships don't just divide responsibilities—they help each partner become more fully themselves.

07/22/2026

"But that's not what happened."

One of the most common traps couples fall into during conflict is arguing over the facts. Who said what. Who started it. What time it happened. Who forgot. Who remembered.

Conflict isn't just about what happened—it's about what it meant to each person.

One partner may remember a missed phone call.
The other remembers feeling forgotten.

One partner remembers arriving home late.
The other remembers feeling unimportant.

Both can be describing the same event, yet having entirely different emotional experiences.

When we focus solely on proving our version of the facts, we often miss the opportunity to understand our partner's reality. Feeling understood doesn't require agreeing on every detail—it requires feeling seen.

Shift focus from facts to this...

"What did this experience mean to you?"
"What emotion did this bring up?"
"What need wasn't met in that moment?"
"Help me understand why this felt so significant."

The goal of conflict isn't to win the argument—it's to understand the person you're in the argument with.

Sometimes the greatest shift in a relationship happens when we stop debating the facts and start becoming curious about the feelings behind them.

07/01/2026

Are you helping… or are you rescuing?

One idea that really resonated with me from Esther Perel podcast is the concept of the "hero complex." It asks us to consider an important question: When I step in to fix someone else's problems, who is it really serving?

Many of us have learned that being needed equals being loved. We become the problem-solver, the caretaker, or the one who always has the answers. Healthy relationships aren't built on one person carrying the other—they're built on creating space for both people to grow.

After listening to Esther Perel, I found myself reflecting on a few verbs that shape our relationships. Instead of asking, "Am I a good friend?" she invites us to ask questions like:

•Do I know how to ask?
Can I ask for help, support, or what I need—or am I always the one offering it?

•Can I receive?
When someone offers kindness, a compliment, or support, do I allow myself to receive it without minimizing it or feeling guilty?

•Do I always give?
Giving is beautiful, but if giving is the only way I know how to connect, am I creating relationships where I'm valued only for what I do rather than who I am?

•Can I refuse?
Am I able to say "no" without feeling like I'm disappointing people? Healthy friendships have room for boundaries.

So here's a question to reflect on today:

Which relational verb comes most naturally to you, and which one could use a little more attention?

New moms aren’t meant to do it alone. If you know a postpartum mom who could use an extra set of hands and a fresh start...
06/10/2026

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06/02/2026

One of my favorite metaphors from The Mastery of Love and You Are the One You've Been Waiting For is the idea that we each carry a "magical kitchen" within us.

Imagine you have a magical kitchen.

You have endless amounts of food. You never worry about what to eat; whatever you wish for you have at your table. You are generous with your food. Someone could offer you pizza and demand something in return, but if your magical kitchen is already stocked, you decline. Abundance gives us the freedom to choose rather than settle.

Now imagine exactly the opposite. You are starving, you have no money to buy food. Then someone offers you pizza, and you accept. But this pizza comes with conditions attached.

Now imagine we are talking about love, not food.

The magical kitchen metaphor reminds us that while healthy relationships can nourish us, they were never meant to be our sole source of nourishment. The more we learn to access our own self-worth, self-compassion, and inner resources, the less we depend on others to fill an emptiness within us.

Relationships become less about survival and more about sharing.

What would change if you trusted that your kitchen already contains what you need?

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