04/30/2026
When I heard Robin say "self pity is poison" during a Peloton ride one day in between chemotherapy sessions, it hit me like a ton of bricks.
In that moment I made a choice that changed my whole perspective during and after treatment:
I was not going to feel sorry for myself.
Chemotherapy was poison enough.
I didn't need more toxicity in my life.
Instead, I would look for things I could control.
Focus on what I could do.
Find my internal strengths, or find external supports to get through difficult moments.
There was no room for self pity so I had to choose a different perspective.
And that changed me.
Did that mean I didn't have hard days?Absolutely not.
Did that mean I relied on toxic positivity? Nope.
I stayed away from all things toxic in my mind and instead, I allowed myself to acknowledge that yes, what I was going through was challenging.
Yes, I was on the struggle bus.
Yes, chemotherapy sucked.
Double mastectomy sucked.
Reconstruction sucked.
Going through all of it during COVID sucked.
And when I had to cry, or be angry, or grieve to move through intense feelings I did.
And when the emotions processed I remembered that I was going to be okay and I would get through it.
That better days were ahead.
That I had friends who loved me and a roof over my head.
That Buddy was next to me for snuggles and comfort.
And this too, would pass.
And it made all of the difference in the world.
Mindset is a game changer.
That is why it is in my Nine M's Framework.
Read more in my book. Link in bio.