The Marriage Restoration Project: Couples Counseling with Rabbi Shlomo

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The Marriage Restoration Project: Couples Counseling with Rabbi Shlomo Los Angeles marriage counseling using imago therapy to save relationships across California. We counsel all faiths: Jewish, Christian & more. It works!

Intensive LA marriage retreats help improve communication, your life & relationships with counseling. Los Angeles marriage counseling retreats using imago therapy to save relationships across California. Evie Shafner is a certified marriage counselor, certified Imago Relationship Therapist (master clinician) & certified Imago Workshop presenter. Couples therapy includes: private counseling with you & your partner; online marriage counseling via Skype; private weekend marriage retreats with intensive relationship counseling; group couples retreats; & imago workshops. We counsel both married & unmarried couples, non religious & religious. Ready to save your marriage & want the best therapist? Experience LA Imago relationship therapy with The Marriage Restoration Project couples therapists.

03/22/2026

People change. That’s reality.

You’re not meant to agree on everything. The real question is, can you respect each other anyway?

Strong relationships aren’t about sameness, they’re about staying connected even in the differences.

03/19/2026

At some point, you have to ask yourself, how long am I going to keep having the same exact argument?

It’s easy to focus on what your partner is doing wrong.
It’s harder to look inward and ask, what can I do differently?

Blame keeps you stuck.
Ownership moves you forward.

You can both keep pointing fingers… or one of you can shift the dynamic.

Pause.
Drop the victim mindset.
Start speaking about what you need, not just what’s hurting you.

That’s where real change begins.

03/17/2026

Cutting someone off can feel like strength, but sometimes it’s just the easier escape. Real growth is learning how to set boundaries without shutting people out completely. Not everything is about them being toxic, sometimes it’s also about our own triggers and sensitivity. The harder, more mature work is staying, communicating, and creating healthier dynamics.

03/15/2026

Sometimes the reaction you’re seeing isn’t really about what just happened. When someone reacts in a very intense way, it’s often touching an old wound that existed long before this moment. If you only look at the surface, it just feels like an overreaction. But when you understand that pain is underneath it, it becomes easier to respond with compassion instead of defensiveness.

03/13/2026

Weekly therapy sessions usually just scratch the surface. One issue comes up, you talk about it for a bit, then the week ends and life keeps moving. There often isn’t enough time for both people to fully express themselves, let alone get to the deeper patterns underneath the conflict. Real progress usually happens when couples step out of the weekly cycle and spend focused time in an intensive process that allows them to slow down, understand the root issues, and actually repair the relationship.

03/11/2026

Sometimes when someone reaches their breaking point, they lose their cool. They raise their voice, they have an outburst, and it feels shocking because it is so unlike them. Often it is not cruelty, it is a desperate signal that something in the relationship has been hurting them for a long time and needs to change. One moment that is out of character should be a reason to pause and understand what led there, not always a reason to immediately walk away.

03/10/2026

Men’s deepest fear is often shame, the fear of feeling like a failure. When a husband loses his job, he may already feel like he’s let everyone down. A wife’s instinct might be anxiety: “What are we going to do? Let’s figure this out.” But jumping straight into problem solving can unintentionally reinforce his fear that he’s failing.

03/09/2026

Your spouse isn’t the problem… your reaction might be. Not everything your spouse does that annoys you actually needs to be corrected. If it’s not truly harming you, pause and ask yourself why it bothers you so much. Often the reaction says more about our own triggers than their behavior. The only person you can control in a relationship is yourself, and that awareness changes everything.

03/08/2026

When your partner is sharing something that hurt them, that moment belongs to them. It’s not the time to defend yourself or bring up everything you’re upset about. If you interrupt their pain with your own, they’ll feel unheard and shut down. Let them have the floor now, it’s not about you right now.

03/05/2026

When you’re under stress, your prefrontal cortex, the part of the brain responsible for reasoning, judgment, and self control, goes offline. In those moments, you’re not fully acting like your best self, you’re reacting from survival mode. That’s why learning tools to stay grounded matters so much. The more you practice regulating your emotions, the more control you keep, even when things feel overwhelming.

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173 South Orange Drive
Los Angeles, CA
90036

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Monday 10am - 9pm
Tuesday 10am - 9pm
Wednesday 10am - 9pm
Thursday 10am - 9pm
Friday 10am - 1pm
Sunday 10am - 9pm

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