Over the Rug Therapy

05/10/2026

My first Mother’s Day! 💕💐

It’s been quite the journey. I’m thankful but also deeply exhausted. I know this day is complicated for so many of us, for various reasons. Sending hugs to all who have a tricky relationship with this day.

🫂❤️‍🩹

04/21/2026

I think a lot of people believe that having a secure attachment style will solve all there problems (ie, never feeling unpleasant feelings, no conflict, endless peace). But secure attachment is more about an internalized sense of trust, safety, and belief that you can figure out problems as they arise.

Securely attached people tend to be comfortable with intimacy, are emotionally resilient, and capable of maintaining stable, trusting relationships. Secure attachments are still humans and will have human experiences (including destabilizing events, heartbreak, and pain).

The most prominent characteristic of secure attachment is their resiliency—they’re able to get back to baseline quicker.

03/31/2026

03/29/2026

Had fun making this! I see attachment styles all around—figure I’d share what it looks like in a relatable way.

Do you agree or disagree with any of the things I picked?

Also, shoutout to who identified “Sometimes” by Britney Spears as being disorganized attachment a few back! Agreed.

02/16/2026

We have the classic anxious/avoidant attachment dynamic, but together we have a secure attachment. It’s possible!

Being aware of each other’s attachment style is so helpful, because it helps you not take their behavior so personally. I remember when we were dating and I asked Reemon, “do you still love me?” after a fight and he was super confused and slightly offended.

Since then, he understands that I need more reassurance than him, and when I ask if he still loves me, what I’m really doing is checking in that he’s still in this with me. I know he loves me, it’s not actually in question!

If you’re anxiously attached, send this to your partner and friends! Be loved well is the theme for 2026 🫶🏽

02/12/2026

I asked my avoidant attachment partner how he knew he liked me before we started dating ☺️ these are his answers!

Last one is the biggest tell!! Anything you’d add?

Comment ATTACHMENT and I’ll send you my latest guide “Why do you keep doing that?” where I share about attachment wounds and how to work through unhelpful behaviors. Great resource for my anxious, avoidant, and disorganized folks ❤️‍🩹

02/09/2026

Did you know there’s more to attachment styles than just how your parent shows up?

Our parents and caregivers are only part of the attachment. The systems we exist in (ie, school, health/medical care, religion, capitalism, etc) also deeply influence how our nervous system is wired.

I’m posting this purely for education (as this is my first priority with this account). But if you’re wanting to check out my guide that addresses this, the link is in my bio (with other helpful guides as well).