Scherdin Counseling

06/17/2026

What is your favorite Thomas Merton poem or quote?

06/13/2026

The most meaningful part of our B Well Spring Retreat, A Taste of Kentucky, didn’t happen just at the retreat. That’s where it began.

The measure of an excellent retreat is not what unfolded during our time together, but in addition too the retreat experience, what lasts, what grows and what takes root inside you.

A few weeks after our Spring retreat, one woman told us something surprising, and magical.

She wasn’t constantly reaching for her phone anymore.

Not because she set a rule.

Not because she deleted apps.

Not because she forced herself.

She simply noticed she no longer needed the constant distraction.

That’s what real change looks like.

Not motivation.

Not discipline.

A nervous system that no longer needs to escape the present moment.

What is one habit you’ve noticed yourself reaching for when life feels overwhelming?

06/12/2026

You don’t spend energy on what lies outside your control. You spend it on what doesn’t. Your mind. Your habits. Your ability to navigate whatever comes next without being crushed by it or, worse, without sleepwalking through it.

In our recent B Well Ladies retreat the women started sharing with each other their habits. Habit stacking is now a thing. It’s remains a vibrant part of our follow up meetings on zoom.

05/21/2026

Believe that life is worth living, and your belief will help create the fact.

05/16/2026

Why Insight Doesn’t Stick

You can have a powerful insight in a calm moment…

…and completely lose access to it when you’re triggered.

Why?

Because insight stored in a regulated state
is not accessible in a dysregulated one.

This is why people feel like they “go backwards.”

You’re not going backwards.
You’re shifting states.

Coherence means learning how to bring clarity with you, even under stress.

05/15/2026

My question for the day:

“What do I repeatedly rehearse through my choices, nervous system, relationships, work, tone, urgency, avoidance, overfunctioning, restraint, compassion, or fear?”

05/13/2026

Not every thought deserves your trust.

Some thoughts are generated from stress.

They sound like:
• “I need to figure this out right now”
• “Something is wrong”
• “What if this goes badly?”

These aren’t necessarily truth.
They’re your nervous system asking for safety.

Clear thinking doesn’t rush you.

If your thoughts feel urgent, looping, or pressuring…
pause before you believe them.

05/11/2026

There are two systems operating in you at all times:

A protective system (fast, reactive, urgent)
A coherent system (steady, clear, grounded)

The body determines which one is active.

But here’s what most people miss:

Your thinking will organize around whichever system is running.

When you’re activated, your thoughts will sound convincing—but they won’t be clear.

Clarity isn’t just a feeling.
It’s a different quality of thinking.

05/10/2026

Mother’s Day can carry an invisible load no one else fully sees.
The emotional labor.
The holding together.
The remembering.
The worrying.
The nurturing.
The quiet exhaustion behind the strength.

If that’s you… it’s real.
It matters.
And so do you.

Not every burden was meant to be carried forever.
Some things can be gently sat down.
Not abandoned… just no longer carried alone, or carried at the expense of yourself.

Today, May You receive even a fraction of the care you so freely give to others. 🌸

05/03/2026

Just one of the many transformative and beautiful moments during our retreat.

One of the most beautiful things we witness at our retreats…

is the moment a woman finally exhales.

Not just physically—
but emotionally.

The moment she realizes she doesn’t have to hold it all together anymore.

There’s something sacred about creating space
where your body feels safe enough to soften.

And that’s where the real transformation begins.