E-Motion Psychotherapy

E-Motion Psychotherapy Licensed marriage and family therapist Tory L. Eletto. LIV by E-Motion Psychotherapy is a located in Westchester and NYC.

We are dedicated to empowering individuals and their surrounding relationships. Our hope is to help foster growth, and teach you how to life the life you want. Liv, our Mind & Body Studio, is an addition that is unique and proactive. Our studio offers Yoga & Meditation, combined with insight, to truly embody overall well being.

An additional layer - in the moment I was annoyed that she stormed off. My brain told me she was being inflexible, which...
06/19/2026

An additional layer - in the moment I was annoyed that she stormed off. My brain told me she was being inflexible, which made me less curious and empathetic.

The next day it was so helpful to share openly about how our brains tell us stories when we feel hurt or mad.
We chat about this often, and sometimes laugh about the stories our brains tell.

It allows us to stay curious, loving, and open to one another. And it’s so important that I show my kids that I am human and still learning and practicing this stuff myself.

Lastly, these stories tend to repeat themselves and impact our perception. Any space you can create is massively helpful in the way we see ourselves, feel our emotions, and meet other people.

06/18/2026

Ways to practice vulnerability skills:

• Stay focused on expressing your truth over focusing on their reaction.
• Share your experience instead of building a case.
• Speak from your feelings, needs, and desires, not your assumptions.
• Let go of being understood perfectly.
• Notice when you start performing, people pleasing, defending, or editing yourself.
• Allow your truth to exist even if someone disagrees with it.
• Resist the urge to overexplain in order to earn validation.
• Remember: vulnerability is an act of self expression, not a strategy for connection.
• Your job is to communicate honestly. Their job is to respond authentically.

Before your next hard conversation, ask yourself:• What am I feeling right now?• What story am I telling about what this...
06/17/2026

Before your next hard conversation, ask yourself:

• What am I feeling right now?

• What story am I telling about what this means?

• What am I assuming about the other persons intentions?

• Is there another explanation I haven’t considered?

• What vulnerable truth is underneath my reaction?

• What do I need right now?

• What would it sound like to communicate my hurt instead of my assumptions?

• Am I responding to what happened or to what I’m making it mean?

• If I let go of the label I’ve given to them, what else might I see?

The way we define conflict and what it means, really determines the kind of partner, friend, and parent we can be. And ...
06/16/2026

The way we define conflict and what it means, really determines the kind of partner, friend, and parent we can be. And the crazy part is, we don’t even know to pay attention to it.

One of the things I do in my couple and family sessions is try and get on the same page about what conflict is meant for. Because otherwise our meaning system will cause us to avoid, attack, shut down, defense, lose ourselves, control, or cut people off too quickly.

Conflict is meant to create closeness and because it’s the bridge between autonomy and connection. It enhances intimacy when we can show up honestly and fully - and have completely different experiences, needs, or emotions, while feel connected at the same time.

So before you start fighting facts- ask yourself what conflict means to you. And let that become a guide to how you start showing up in it.

06/15/2026

Emotions are not easy to feel because a lot gets in the way. We tend to have specific stories or make meaning around the emotions we feel, because we are natural story tellers.

But that’s often when get stuck, or when shame starts to weigh us down. Try to distinguish the difference between the feeling you are having, and the meaning you assign to it.

With that space- allow yourself to meet that feeling differently. Let it breathe, let it flow, and let it move. Now the story (and the weight of shame) no longer can keep you trapped.

Every life changing decision requires the same thing: A willingness to feel uncomfortable.Starting the business.Leaving ...
06/12/2026

Every life changing decision requires the same thing: A willingness to feel uncomfortable.

Starting the business.
Leaving the relationship.
Setting the boundary.
Having the hard conversation.
Trying again after failure.
Showing up as yourself instead of who you think you need to be.

Research consistently shows that our ability to tolerate discomfort is one of the strongest predictors of fulfillment, healthy relationships, resilience, and success.

But what the research doesn’t always capture is why discomfort feels so hard. Because underneath discomfort is vulnerability and shame.

And the way we meet shame will ultimately shape how long we can tolerate discomfort and keep going. The ones who get to the other side aren’t fearless, they are just are willing to meet themselves in shame long enough for something new to emerge on the other side.

There was a time when mothers didn’t speak openly about the hardship of motherhood. Women felt pressure to be grateful a...
05/11/2026

There was a time when mothers didn’t speak openly about the hardship of motherhood. Women felt pressure to be grateful and fulfilled even when they were losing themselves inside the demands of it all.

I’m grateful we changed that. I’m grateful motherhood became more honest. But I hope we haven’t swung so far that we risk reducing motherhood to suffering alone.

Because motherhood is hard. It can feel relentless and consuming, but it is also sacred. Watching your heart exist outside your body puts you face to face with depths within you may have never accessed otherwise.

Not every hard moment is proof something is wrong. Sometimes motherhood feels overwhelming because it’s a kind of love this deep that changes you. I hope we can acknowledge the hard and also capture the beauty of it all too.

This isn’t meant to minimize how hard it can be to relax into life. It’s meant to remind you that freedom and presence i...
05/09/2026

This isn’t meant to minimize how hard it can be to relax into life. It’s meant to remind you that freedom and presence is the goal.

The point isn’t to never overthink again but to experience more moments where life feels bigger than your self consciousness.

This isn’t about getting rid of insecurity forever. It’s about not letting it become the center of your existence.



(This was inspired by a beautiful carousel from )

05/07/2026

Please don’t spend your whole life waiting to finally live it. Make space to notice and embrace everything meaningful and beautiful too.

Pain is really hard to feel because it often triggers shame. Grief and sadness are so vulnerable to experience, shame qu...
05/07/2026

Pain is really hard to feel because it often triggers shame. Grief and sadness are so vulnerable to experience, shame quickly wants to define it.

But when the definition becomes “something is wrong with me,” the pain stunts us. Shame is incredibly hard for humans to hold because it threatens our sense of belonging - and that’s where people often get stuck.

Learning to feel pain, and notice shame, without fully collapsing into the narratives it created - is by far one of the most important ways we grow emotionally.

It’s what allows us to stay present and reflective. To feel pain as part of the human experience instead of evidence of our brokenness. And over time, the ability to hold yourself in your vulnerability changes you.

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