06/22/2026
🌿 Mental Health Monday🌿: Why we lie to ourselves about the goals we say we want
We all do it.
We swear we want the change.
We talk about the goal.
We imagine the outcome.
And then — when it’s time to actually do the work — we suddenly become very busy, very tired, very overwhelmed, or very “tomorrow.”
So what’s that about?
We lie to ourselves because the truth is that change can feel uncomfortable and it costs us something. It requires effort, vulnerability, consistency, and uncertainty.
Our brains are wired to avoid discomfort, even when the discomfort is the doorway to the life we say we want.
Self deception sounds like:
🌿”I’ll start when things calm down.”
🌿”I just need to be more motivated.”
🌿”It’s not the right time.”
🌿”I’ll get serious after this week.”
But underneath those excuses is usually something more honest. Thoughts that whisper “I’m scared I’ll fail, I don’t trust myself to follow through, I don’t want to face the parts of me that this goal will challenge.”
Here’s the real shift:
We don’t need more motivation.
We need more honesty.
Honesty about what we’re avoiding.
Honesty about what we’re afraid of.
Honesty about the fact that wanting a goal and working toward it are two different muscles.
When we stop lying to ourselves, we stop negotiating with our own potential.
And that’s when things finally start to move.
