09/03/2026
It can be tempting to immediately answer, fix, or decide when our children are struggling. Sometimes they need us to step in, but sometimes they need the opportunity to discover, “I can figure this out.”
Returning responsibility means allowing children to take ownership of decisions and problems that are appropriate for their age and abilities. It communicates trust, supports problem-solving, and helps children build confidence in their own capabilities.
This does not mean leaving a child alone with an overwhelming situation. We can stay present, reflect what they are experiencing, offer limited choices, and help them think through their options. When safety is involved or a child is too dysregulated to problem-solve, adults still step in.
The goal is not to make children handle everything themselves. It is to give them manageable opportunities to experience their own capability while knowing support is still available.