07/27/2026
As I dedicate myself to planning my week, I do the morning Facebook scroll, and suddenly I find myself grappling with feelings of inadequacy, which I know are stemmed from deeply rooted childhood experiences that resurface more often than I would prefer. These feelings often arise when I compare myself to individuals I admire, or when contemplating aspirations that, while deeply desired, are ultimately wants rather than needs.
I have often invested my time and effort into situations and relationships where reciprocity or appreciation was lacking. Like many mothers, I tend to give generously. However, the past few years have been instrumental in teaching me the importance of self-care and giving to myself, as constant giving without replenishment can lead to physical and emotional depletion.
Facebook presents a complex dynamic for me. While it can unfortunately exacerbate feelings of comparison, it also serves as a source of uplifting content, including inspirational quotes and positive stories. Consequently, I feel a strong inclination to surround myself with positive influences, emotions, and gratitude for the blessings and opportunities I have received. I am truly thankful for the gifts god has given me which includes individuals in my life who have taken the time to connect with the authentic me, beyond the curated photo and Facebook post(s) that I present to the world. You know who you are – those who make the effort to call, visit, or go beyond a simple "like" on a Facebook post.
Facebook, in essence, offers a glimpse, a cover photo and a summary of life's chapters, but it does not fully encapsulate a person or their entire life. When you find yourself slipping into the negative feelings such as myself, remember that one has the discretion to choose what to share or withhold. Much like a well-read individual understands that the intricacies of a character in book, their life choices involve numerous nuances and details that cannot be conveyed in a summary, and are truly understood only by delving into every aspect. Therefore, I prefer not to provide summaries of my life and endeavor to limit my use of Facebook. I believe that if one genuinely wishes to know me, they would make an effort to connect with the real me, rather than relying solely on photos and summaries posted online. To me, fewer photos and posts on Facebook often indicate a person who is content to witness others achieve their dreams, spend quality time with loved ones, and pursue happiness in life, rather than being constantly engrossed with Facebook. Thus, if you truly desire to know the real me, I invite you to visit my office, bring your horse and an open mind, and I would be delighted to share my life with you.
