Insight Counseling Center

10/22/2026

My article just became an essential read on Psychology Today. You can sleep next to someone every night and still feel touch starved. If you feel like the affection in your relationship has faded and your relationship is slipping into a roommate dynamic, this article is for you!

10/22/2026

Everyone is exhausted by the dating process. If you value your time, money, and are looking to find a match, switch to clear-code dating. It’s the most effective way of dating. Millennials were taught to hide your “neediness” and not to be “picky”. Basically, try to be who your date wants you to be versus who you truly are. Gen Z is flipping the dating script. Be upfront with what you are looking for in a partner, who you genuinely are, and your boundaries within a relationship.

As a S*xologist, I am constantly asked “When should I bring up what I like in the bedroom?”. My response is always, “As soon as you trust them”. If you are interested in exploring something further with this person, share your intimacy interests as soon as possible. More and more, I am hearing that daters are discussing physical intimacy on the 1st and 2nd date.

If you are dating, be exactly who you are on the first date. Share yourself. Share your values. And don’t be afraid to be bold!

10/21/2026

It’s true…the more you chase your partner the more likely they are to run away. In this HuffPost article Dr. Sabrina Romanoff and I discuss the Pursue-withdraw cycle that so many couples fall into during conflict. Swipe right to learn if this is happening to you!

10/15/2026

10/15/2026

4 ground rules to have an effective conversation with your partner. Typically, a fight doesn’t start because of what you said, it’s how you say it. Use these four ground rules to avoid an all night fight and get your point across. 💋💋

10/07/2026

I love speaking about dating, seggs, and … how difficult it is to date in Miami! The sold out room got real immediately when the first question of the night was, “Who should pay for the first date?”

Each panelist came from a different background. I was the relationship and seggs expert, Asha Elias Friedman is the author of Vice City Pillow Talk who is in the know about all things dating in Miami, Michael Asibuo | Men’s Transformation who is out there helping men become their best dating selves, and Dr. Pamela Geller who has studied human behavior and dating trends through the decades!


Miami New Times Editor, Celia Almeida , recapped the night by writing, “Panelists and participants shared their thoughts on the highs and lows of dating in Miami. One woman said men expected her to dress to the nines for low-effort coffee dates. Another shared that conservative men often falsely identified themselves as moderates on dating apps.

And as for who should pay for the first date…

Celia wrote, “Geller suggested the answer isn’t simple, as the question highlights tensions between economics and patriarchy. Dr. DeSeta shared that in the Midwest, where she grew up, it was customary to “go Dutch,” or pay for one’s own expenses. Asibuo said the man should pay for the first date. Asked about same-gender dates, he suggested the person who initiated should pay.”

Stay tuned for more s*xy talks!

10/06/2026

You can sleep next to someone every night and still feel touch starved.

I see this all the time with long-term couples. The hugs, the kisses, the hand on your back as you pass in the kitchen quietly fall out of your daily routine. Nobody decides to stop. It just happens slowly, over time.

❤️What touch starvation does to a relationship:

When affectionate touch fades, couples slowly fall into a “roommate” or “teammate” dynamic. You run a house and live well together, but the emotional and physical closeness drifts. One or both of you may start to feel rejected, unwanted or not desired. Desire drops, and physical intimacy slows down or stops altogether. Many of the couples who come to my practice for s*xual issues are, at the root of it, touch starved.

❤️Different needs are normal

No two people need the exact same amount of touch. Some people feel connected through words or quality time, while their partner needs physical affection. One of the most common patterns I see is a partner avoiding a hug or a kiss because they don’t want the moment to turn into an invitation for s*x.

❤️Signs to watch for:

- You find yourself keeping score of who initiates hugs, kisses or s*x.
- You avoid touch out of fear of rejection, or fear that your partner will want more.
- One of you starts looking for validation or affection outside the relationship.

❤️What to do about it:

Bring it up instead of holding it in. Choose a time outside the bedroom, when you are both calm. You don’t have to agree on exactly how much touch is enough. Start negotiating. Each of you can share what feels right, and together you can find a common ground where you both feel satisfied, desired and loved.

This week, try one small thing: a long hug when you get home, a kiss goodbye, or holding hands on a walk, with no expectation that it leads anywhere else.

If you and your partner keep getting stuck in this conversation, I’m here to help. You can DM me to book a session or check out my website: insight-miami.com.

10/06/2026

Last night at the We Met in Miami and Miami New Times event we went in depth on finances and dating. Basically, dating trending are changing. People are off the apps, looking to meet in person, and getting right to the point on the first date. No more beating around the bush about what you are looking for in a partner, kids, and MONEY! As a relationship therapist, cutting straight to the point and showing your genuine self is the most effective way to date. You want the person sitting across the table from you to show you exactly who they are, so start by showing them exactly who you are! This way, if it’s not a match don’t waste your time and money on a second date. I love speaking alongside ASHA! She is such an engaging writer and so much fun to collab with!

10/05/2026

I’ve sat with hundreds of long-term couples. The ones who stay close aren’t the most romantic. They negotiate. 💬

Your body changes. Your hormones change. Your needs change. What you signed up for on day one won’t be what you need a decade later, and that’s not a problem. It’s growth.

That’s why I ask every long-term couple I work with to create a relationship “working document”: a living check-in on your emotional, physical, practical and individual needs.

Never just expect a no. Never answer with one. There’s always a middle where you both feel seen and heard.

When did you last update your terms? Take the time tonight. ♡

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📖 Read the full article on The Modern S*x Therapist, my Psychology Today blog. Link in bio.

10/05/2026

So many of us are in survival mode. Everyone is exhausted (mentally, emotionally, & physically) by the end of the day. This leaves very little space for a thriving relationship. Too often long term couples fall into friendship mode, teammate mode, or roommates. Want to stop your relationship from becoming hallow… start dating each other every day! Take 20 minutes out of your day to spend quality time together. Put the phone down and take time to focus on your partner. This is not the time to talk about finances or logistics, it’s a time to recharge as a couple and grow closer together. This is your self care time as well of “Learning and Earning” your partner. (Learning and Earning your Partner is one of it 4 Relationship Principles for a healthy relationship.