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07/11/2026

I thought I would be able to merge pages - but I can’t.

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I’ll be deactivating this page at some point.

If you’ve ever thought, 🤔 “Why does everything fall apart so fast?” — you’re not alone.When a child’s nervous system fee...
04/12/2026

If you’ve ever thought, 🤔
“Why does everything fall apart so fast?” — you’re not alone.

When a child’s nervous system feels unsafe, their brain shifts into protection mode.

And in that moment, logic, listening, and cooperation aren’t available. ✋🏽

So the strategies that should work… don’t.

🌀 Not because you’re doing it wrong.

But because you’re working with the wrong part of the brain. 🤷🏼‍♀️

In this webinar, I’ll walk you through what’s actually happening underneath those big reactions—

and how to respond in a way that helps your child feel safer, more regulated, and more connected (without power struggles or shutdown).

This is the shift:
from managing behavior → to supporting the nervous system.

And once you see it, you can’t unsee it. 👀

Come join us online May 7, 6:30-7:30 MST, or catch the replay which is included with registration $50 per family.

Link in Bio for more information and to sign up!

🫤 When your child melts down, it doesn’t just happen to them.It happens in you too. 🌀 Your chest tightens. Your voice ch...
04/08/2026

🫤 When your child melts down, it doesn’t just happen to them.

It happens in you too. 🌀

Your chest tightens. Your voice changes. Your thoughts get louder. And suddenly the moment starts moving fast. 💨

That’s not because you’re doing something wrong. It’s because nervous systems talk to each other. 💞

Your child’s dysregulation can activate your nervous system too.

And when that happens, it gets a whole lot harder to respond the way you want to. 😓

This is one of the biggest missing pieces in parenting conversations:

it’s not just about understanding your child’s nervous system.

👉🏻It’s also about recognizing your own.👈🏻

In this workshop, we’ll talk about how to notice what’s happening in you, how to stay more connected to yourself in hard moments, and how to respond in ways that support safety and connection instead of escalating the chaos.

🧐 If you’ve ever thought, “Why does this get so big so fast?” — this is for you. 🥰

MAY 7, 6:30-7:30, MST
Live on Google Meet
Replay included
$50 per family

🔗 Link in bio.🔗

💛 Share with your friend who is always venting about how hard it is! 💛

😫 When your child is in it—melting down, shutting down, or pushing back—…everything you thought would work, doesn’t.✅You...
04/06/2026

😫 When your child is in it—
melting down, shutting down, or pushing back—

…everything you thought would work, doesn’t.

✅You explain.

✅You set limits.

✅You try to stay calm.

And it still escalates. 🌪️

💛 You are not failing as a parent.

🌀 But you can influence what’s going on — your nervous system matters too.

In emotional moments, timing matters more than technique. ⏰

What works early won’t work later.

And what works for escalation won’t work for shutdown.

In this workshop, we’ll break down:

• what’s actually happening underneath behavior

• how to recognize early signs before things get big

• what to do in the moment (without making it worse)

• how your nervous system shapes the interaction

This isn’t about being perfectly calm. 🧘🏼‍♀️

It’s about being real, regulated enough, and connected. 💞

→ May 7, 2026 6:30-8pm MST
→ Live on Google Meet (replay included)
→ $50 per registration

🔗 Link in bio to register.

🌼 Share this with a friend who needs to attend! 🌼

🤔 Never considered virtual play therapy? You might want to.Virtual therapy is not second-best.Kids don’t need a fancy of...
03/26/2026

🤔 Never considered virtual play therapy? You might want to.

Virtual therapy is not second-best.

Kids don’t need a fancy office to do deep work. They need safety, connection, and a regulated adult on the other side.

Through a lens, we’re working with the nervous system in real time—whether we’re across the room or across a screen.

The myth? That virtual = less effective.
The reality? It depends on how it’s done.

01/15/2026

.unconventional thank you for helping to raise competent humans.

Risky Play helps kids develop emotional and social skills, self confidence, emotional regulation and helps prevent anxiety and depression.

It’s a NEED for healthy, optimal development!

Great reel!

01/01/2026

My review — the tremendous growth my clients have shown and how full my heart is. And it isn’t stopping.

What’s to come is just continuing to bring continued growth because that’s what life does.

What I didn’t include is the work to save our democracy, feed our community, and bring safety to individuals and groups who are not safe. That isn’t performative work for me — and it’s always ongoing.

Also December I was struggling with an uncooperative kidney stone and had a basal cell carcinoma removed. Way too many visits to urgent care, hospital and clinics for my taste but I’m heading into 2026 healthy!

12/23/2025

🌅 Yesterday was the solstice.

The light is returning—and I like to mark that.

As it does, I’m clarifying 🔍 my values and gently examining what needs to shift so I stay aligned with where I’m going.

This letting go isn’t seasonal. ❄️ 🌱 ☀️ 🍂

It isn’t sudden.

🌀 It’s the continuation of decades of healing, practice, and evolution—work I’ll keep doing for as long as I’m here.

Steady. Grounded. Ongoing. 🥾

💝 Most parenting advice starts with: “Connect with your child.”But here’s the truth no one says out loud:🤦‍♀️ You can’t ...
12/08/2025

💝 Most parenting advice starts with: “Connect with your child.”

But here’s the truth no one says out loud:

🤦‍♀️ You can’t authentically connect with your child when your own nervous system is in full alarm mode.

😩 When you’re triggered, flooded, angry, scared, overwhelmed, or transported straight back into your own childhood — your body cannot fake safety.

Kids feel what’s happening inside us before they hear a single word we say.

Connection doesn’t start with scripts.
It starts with your state.

If you’re tense, bracing, shutting down, or simmering with frustration, your child’s neuroception picks it up instantly.

💓 Even “gentle” words can feel threatening when the adult’s body is broadcasting danger.

This is why “connection over control” sometimes fails — because it’s being done from a dysregulated body.

Kids don’t need perfection. They don’t need calm. They don’t need a Zen master. 🧘🏼‍♀️

They need realness.

They need truth.

They need a parent who can say, “Hang on, my body is freaking out — I’m here, and I’m working on it.”

They need a parent who can take one breath, soften one muscle, shift one cell toward presence.

Because here’s what children learn from that:

“My parent’s stress isn’t my fault.”

“I’m not too much.”

“We can have hard moments and still be okay.”

“Relationships can rupture… and repair.”

These scripts aren’t about being polished.

They’re about being honest and connected while you’re human and triggered.

😮‍💨 If you’ve ever felt like you’re failing because you get overwhelmed — you’re not.

💞 You’re doing the courageous, generational repair work of learning to stay present with yourself and your child, even when your own history gets loud.

✨ This is parenting from truth, not performance.
And kids feel the difference immediately. ✨
















💓 If “connection over control” feels impossible when your child is spiraling, you’re not broken — you’re human. Connecti...
12/07/2025

💓 If “connection over control” feels impossible when your child is spiraling, you’re not broken — you’re human.

Connection doesn’t start with the child. It starts with your nervous system. 🧠

Your child learns regulation from the state you bring into the moment, not the scripts you say.

If your body is bracing, tense, overwhelmed, scared, or triggered, they feel it instantly. 😬

💖 Kids don’t respond to the performance of calm — they respond to the truth of your internal state.

➡️ This is why “trying to be patient” often backfires.

➡️ The child senses the pressure.

➡️ They sense the fear.

➡️ They sense the overwhelm behind your eyes.

✨ They sense everything. ✨

🌀 And for some kids — especially neurodivergent kids whose neuroception is extra sensitive — even a slightly dysregulated parent can feel like danger.

Not because you’re dangerous, but because their nervous system reads energy before language.

The real work isn’t to be calm. ⬅️

😊 The real work is to be authentic, regulated enough, and honest:

“I’m getting overwhelmed. I’m here. I’m taking a breath.” 😮‍💨

💞 That is connection.

❤️ That is safety.

You don’t have to be perfect.

You don’t have to suppress your emotions.

You don’t have to bubble-wrap your body language.

You just have to be present enough to stay with your child’s experience without abandoning your own.

That’s what builds trust.

That’s what builds cooperation.

That’s what builds resilience on both sides.

💝 Connection is a nervous system state — not a parenting technique.















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