Sarah Lauterbach, MA LMFT

Sarah Lauterbach, MA LMFT I provide online therapy to fathers struggling with anxiety and depression before or after the birth

Bowen Family Systems therapy focuses on leadership. People who act as leaders of their families have the following qual...
09/19/2023

Bowen Family Systems therapy focuses on leadership. People who act as leaders of their families have the following qualities:

-proactive rather than reactive
-emotional regulation
-engage in problem solving
-engage in curiosity and compassion
-social connection and support

Women have been thrown into the role of "CEO" of their families due to patriarchy's rigid roles. This does not mean they are leaders necessarily. Leaders walk softly and carry a big stick.

If you feel resentful and oscillate between acquiesce and personal empowerment that is not real leadership.

Leaders are assertive, request or demand what they need, and practice daily to counter old programming that may thwart their efforts.


Terry Real's Relational Life Therapy talks about two kinds of boundaries: protective and containment.Imagine an orange. ...
09/19/2023

Terry Real's Relational Life Therapy talks about two kinds of boundaries: protective and containment.

Imagine an orange. The outer orange peel is your protective boundary. It protects you from stuff getting inside. This boundary can be somewhat porous. You can ask yourself "is there some truth to this information coming in?"

The inner white pulp is your containment boundary. When you feel emotionally triggered you may let too much out. You need a stronger containment boundary. You can also allow more out of this boundary which allows you to be vulnerable with others.

You want a solid boundary with the capability to allow some things in and out instead of no boundary, a too porous boundary, or a brick wall.

My first circle puzzle!
09/16/2023

My first circle puzzle!

The elephant in the room for some heterosexual couples is male depression. Male depression can be overt and diagnosed a...
09/15/2023

The elephant in the room for some heterosexual couples is male depression. Male depression can be overt and diagnosed as Major Depressive Disorder or Pervasive Depressive Disorder. Treatment for overt depression is medication and therapy.

Terry Real coined the terms "covert depression" in his book "I Don't Want to Talk About It."

Covert depression is when a man due to patriarchal constraints (not being like a woman) doesn't feel, runs away from emotions, copes to avoid emotions, distrusts himself, and doesn't have a good social support network.

According to Real, these men need to be confronted by the women in their lives. It's actually better for them to experience overt depression because then they can start the path to healing.

We have two types of boundaries in relationships, protective and containment.Protective boundaries keep us safe from ext...
09/13/2023

We have two types of boundaries in relationships, protective and containment.

Protective boundaries keep us safe from external threats. The phrase "a thicker skin" refers to protective boundaries.

Containment boundaries keep others safe from us. We feel triggered and learn how much to share (not everything and not nothing).

For example if our partner criticizes us we need a stronger protective boundary to prevent too much getting in and affecting us emotionally. If we are emotionally triggered we need a better containment boundary so we don't engage in a losing strategy (retaliation, control, etc).

Healthy boundaries can be learned especially if they were never modeled in your family.

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