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Breakthrough is a community of men dedicated to making real changes in the quality of men’s lives, helping men to live deeply-felt, richer, happier and more fulfilling lives. More than 3000 local men have graduated our program. Breakthrough is a non-profit organization founded and created in 1987 by Fred Jealous, a community leader and teacher, to provide men with skills to free themselves from non-productive, painful, or abusive aspects of their lives. For each Breakthrough graduate, this includes gaining the ability to eliminate negative self-images, and to take control of anger, fear, addictions, shame, and hopelessness. Breakthrough graduates discover their true power as men, and begin to realize their full potential as fathers, husbands, partners, friends, and as leaders. This is accomplished in a way which respects and honors each man’s uniqueness and personal history, as well as that of the other people in their lives. The Breakthrough program offers all of this in a supportive group-learning setting in Monterey County. Breakthrough provides a resource for men who want to reassess and enhance the direction of their lives. Our highly credible success in doing so is well documented in a 2-year study by Blue Shield of California Foundation , with more than 1600 graduates of our programs.

Nobody ever, ever does it alone.This weekend, I was reminded again of the power of community.It’s challenging for men to...
10/05/2026

Nobody ever, ever does it alone.
This weekend, I was reminded again of the power of community.

It’s challenging for men to value our independence and capability while also acknowledging that we need other people to accomplish the big things.

We love the story of the lone hero. But even the heroes had companions, teachers, armies, and communities.

The hero may have to face his dragon himself.
He doesn’t have to make the journey alone.

Struggle is not a bad word.
Struggle is entering the cave and meeting the dragon. It’s standing up, taking a deep breath, and continuing when you’re tired.
Sometimes it’s walking back into a difficult conversation with someone you love, taking a hard look at yourself, and choosing to stay present.

For 40 years, Breakthrough has helped men experience another kind of strength: the strength that comes from authentic connection with other men.

Community doesn’t fight the dragon for you.
It reminds you that you can face it.

Every man has struggles.
Community is where we find strength.

Come find yours at Breakthrough.

Breaking out of the victim loop.We all go there.Something happens that we didn’t want. Someone hurts us. Something doesn...
10/02/2026

Breaking out of the victim loop.

We all go there.

Something happens that we didn’t want. Someone hurts us. Something doesn’t work out. And stuck in a mental loop replaying the story over and over.

So, how do we know when we might be in victim?

Here’s a little YES / NO quiz:

Are we replaying the same event over and over?
YES / NO

Have we made someone else the villain in the story?
YES / NO

Are we spending more time thinking about what someone else did than what can be done now?
YES / NO

Does moving forward require someone else to admit they were wrong, apologize, or change?
YES / NO

Are we overlooking the choices that are still available right now?
YES / NO

A few YES answers might mean we’re in victim.

And here’s the problem: Victim cuts us off from our agency.

This isn't about pretending something didn't happen. And it isn't about taking responsibility for someone else's behavior.

Humpty Dumpty fell off the wall. Translation: s #!t happens.

We can't uncrack the egg. But we can ask a different question:

Given the reality we're in right now, what's the best choice from here?

That's agency.

This is ground we cover in the Breakthrough Workshop: recognizing the stories that keep us stuck and finding the choices that are ours to make.

By learning to accept what has happened, we take back our power to choose what happens next.

Follow the QR codes to learn more.

Do you want deeper, more meaningful friendships?Friendship Is a Sacred Word.When a man says to you, “You are my friend,”...
09/30/2026

Do you want deeper, more meaningful friendships?

Friendship Is a Sacred Word.

When a man says to you, “You are my friend,” it is no joke. Friendship can mean loyalty, trust, history, belonging, and knowing someone will stand beside you when it matters. Humorously, we like to say "I've been this guy's friend for years. I know where all the bodies are buried." As men we tend to place friendship at the top of the social scale.

And yet, men are increasingly isolated.

In a world where so much of our connection happens through screens and headsets, genuine friendship can be harder to find and even harder to deepen.

For nearly 40 years, Breakthrough Men’s Community has been teaching men tools for creating stronger, more authentic relationships. And often, deeper connection doesn’t require some grand gesture. It starts with being willing to have a different kind of conversation.

We’ve created a free infographic with three simple questions designed to help you deepen your friendships and other important relationships in your life.

Because sometimes the conversation that matters begins with simply asking the right questions.

Follow the QR code to download the free infographic and have the conversation that matters with the people who matter to you.

09/28/2026

We are asking why do "men" need to do "work" anyway?

Question for you men: what were/are the moments that tell you something's got to shift?

We all know when something has to change. It’s the moment you find yourself sitting in your car after work because you j...
09/24/2026

We all know when something has to change.

It’s the moment you find yourself sitting in your car after work because you just can’t go into your own house.

It’s the moment you’re having the same conversation for the 10,000th time. You know where it’s going, but you just can’t seem to get out of the rails of it.

It’s the moment you realize your tank is so tapped out from giving to others that you've got nothing left for yourself.

Breakthrough wasn’t designed to fix anything or anybody. It’s designed to help you understand, know, and relate to yourself.

The truth is, you’ve got everything you need inside yourself now. You’ve just forgotten how to see it.

Come to Breakthrough.

We’ve got a new lens for you to try on.

Workshops start in October. Registration is open now.

Wondering if Breakthrough is right for you? Meet Breakthrough graduates at the Wisdom Circle every Wednesday online.

I’ll see you in the workshop.

Follow the QR codes to learn more

What is Integrity anyway?Your word is not just, “Did I keep my commitment?”Your word is: "Am I living the way I say I wa...
09/16/2026

What is Integrity anyway?

Your word is not just, “Did I keep my commitment?”
Your word is: "Am I living the way I say I want to live?"

We tell each other “my word is my bond,” and mostly, we mean it. But there’s a deeper place where our integrity gets tested. It’s in how we handle conflict with people we care about.

Here’s the trap: confrontation is one of those places where we get to be right. And being right feels good, it feels safe.

Except we only ever see the situation from one angle, our own. And that angle is filtered through a lifetime of beliefs, conditioning and old decisions.

So the real question isn’t “Who’s right?” It’s:
Can I find my part in this?

Because no conflict is truly one-sided.

The hard work isn’t scoring the win. It’s owning your part and allowing the other person to own theirs, or not. That's when true choice becomes available.

Relational integrity is about what you own, and the level of truth you can speak.

Next time a confrontation shows up with someone you care about, try setting “being right” down for a minute and open to curiosity. Risk more honesty, more authenticity.

See what happens.

Want to build this muscle with other men?
Step into the Breakthrough Workshop.

Breakthrough Level 1 starts October 29.
10 weeks that will change your life

For more information visit us online or drop into the free weekly Wisdom Circle every Wednesday online. Meet Breakthrough grads and get a taste of how we work.

The QR codes will get you there.

09/04/2026

Men are built for freindship.

08/18/2026

What change to you want to create? Breakthrough is the place for change.

What if allowing isn’t giving up, but taking your power back?So much of our struggle comes from the *shoulds, must-haves...
08/16/2026

What if allowing isn’t giving up, but taking your power back?

So much of our struggle comes from the *shoulds, must-haves, and ought-tos*, the belief that reality, or another person, needs to be different before we can be okay.

But we don’t control other people. We control how we meet what happens next.

At this year’s Breakthrough Alumni Summer Retreat, we’ll explore Allowing, what it means to accept what is actually happening, listen without trying to control the outcome, and choose our response from a place of love.

Allowing doesn’t mean we agree. It doesn’t mean we become passive. It means we stop fighting reality long enough to reclaim something that is ours:

The power of choice.

Join us at the Breakthrough Alumni Summer Retreat and discover what becomes possible when we stop trying to control what we can’t, and start choosing how we want to show up.

Hope to see you there.

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