Allesanda Tolomei-Hard

Allesanda Tolomei-Hard Who the heck am I?! I am a Certified Massage Therapist and wellness practitioner by trade. I want to help you transform your life challenges into assets.

Spiritual Mentor, Wellness Coach & Intuitive Healer 🌿
Helping high-achieving, heart-centered peopl release burnout, people-pleasing & chronic anxiety so they can finally trust themselves and live with more peace and joy. I have over come some hardcore life challenges- like family illness, deaths, unhealthy relationships, addiction and loss of my home in a wildfire. I want to share my experience an

d how I transformed with you! My goal is to show people that anything is possible for them. The secret that I have learned is that when we transform our thoughts and feelings, our external world follows. Freedom and joy come from within. Join me on an internal journey of transformation!

06/18/2026

This is for the woman who has been strong for so long. She's forgotten that it's okay to not be okay.

The one who smiles through hard days.
Who cares for so many without being asked.
Who lies awake at night wondering if she's doing enough— while already giving everything she has.

I see you.

This is your reminder that...

💕You haven't fallen behind.
💕You haven't failed.
💕You've been surviving in in ways most people will not understand.

And you deserved to be supported— not fixed, not optimized, not to push harder.

Just to be witnessed and supported.

If this resonates with you, that's your nervous system remembering it's safe to rest, it's safe to be seen, it's safe to be human, it's safe to make mistakes.

You don't have to earn your worth by being useful to everyone around you.

You are enough. Exactly as you are. Right now. ❤️

If you are a people-pleaser or perfectionist who is ready to discover your internal support system for those harder days and ease the stress you carry,

The How To Be Your Own Best Friend Workshop is for you.

June 28th. 3—5pm. Downtown Napa.
Only 6 Spots Remain.

✨Link in bio

# perfectionism

06/14/2026

Less guilt. Less overthinking. More peace with who you are.

That's what you'll experience after The How To Be Your Own Best Friend Workshop

Early bird pricing ends Monday at midnight — save $20 with code EarlyBird.🐦

Only 7 spots left.
✨ Link in bio.

05/28/2026

There’s a big difference between genuinely helping others
and people-pleasing…

And it all comes down to how you feel.

When you’re truly available to help,
you have the time, energy, and capacity.

It feels light.
It feels generous.
It feels good.

People-pleasing is different.

It runs on the belief:
“If I can just make everyone happy,
then I’ll finally be okay.”

It often comes from a deeper sense of lack —
lack of self-worth, connection, or safety.

It’s conditional… “If others like me,
then I won’t feel alone or abandoned.”

Most of the time we don’t even realize we’re doing it.

This pattern leaves us depleted, resentful,
and stuck abandoning ourselves —
even while we think we’re being “good.”

If this feels familiar…
you’re not alone ❤️

This is exactly the kind of inner pattern we gently unpack and heal together in the

How To Be Your Own Best Friend Workshop.
Sunday, June 28th | 3:00-5:00 PM | 828 School St., Napa
(At my office.)

Save your spot before June 15th to receive $20 off with coupon code Early bird

Space is limited to only 12 people.

✨Sign up link in my bio.
I’d love to have you there 💛

05/26/2026

You’ve spent years being there for everyone else.

Now it’s time to turn toward yourself with the same love and care.

Registration is officially open for The How To Be Your Own Best Friend Workshop 💛🎉

This 2 hour workshop is for the heart-centered woman who has spent years (or decades) pouring everything she has into everyone else… while quietly putting herself last.

It’s for you if your inner Negative Nancy is louder than you’d like…🤫

if some of your patterns feel inherited…
Like ya got it from your mama. 💕

or if you’re simply tired of carrying everyone
else’s needs.🏋️‍♀️

This workshop was made for you. 💖

In our small group of only 12 women, you’ll receive a beautiful personalized workbook and 3 powerful practices to finally quiet that inner critic and support yourself the way you’ve always supported everyone else.

Early bird $77 ends June 15 — only 12 spots total.

✨If this is speaking to you, click the link in my bio to save your spot!

You are smart. Capable. A problem-solver (at work and at home).But lately you've been feeling a little scattered and ove...
09/13/2025

You are smart. Capable. A problem-solver (at work and at home).

But lately you've been feeling a little scattered and overwhelmed—stretched too thin and pulled in many different directions.

If this resonates and you want an energetic pick-me-up, this workshop is for you! 💕

At the Inner Spark Workshop, you'll connect with your spiritual support team— 🧘‍♀️the unseen allies who help you feel clear, calm, and energetically restored (even when life is full).

You'll leave feeling supported and recharged with new resources to draw on—after meeting one of your spirit guides so you can nurture your inner spark 🎇 and maintain sustainable
creative energy✨

▶️ Link to sign up in my bio.

This Workshop is in San Francisco at the Salesforce Park 🏞️

Thursday, September 18th, from 6:00 to 7:00 p.m.

You don't have to be in cleantech or sustainability to join.

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