Lauren LaRusso Coaching

Lauren LaRusso Coaching Transforming the experience of infidelity into the catalyst for personal growth and change for all.
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06/11/2026

Here’s why this happens: Because it’s not a thinking problem, or a “more information” problem. It’s a process problem — and you need a process for it.

You’ve consumed everything available - the research, the late-night reading, the podcasts about infidelity. And none of it was specific enough to your situation, your marriage, and who you actually are.

Affair fog doesn’t lift with more information.
It doesn’t lift with more time.
It doesn’t lift by thinking more or harder.

It lifts when you finally have a process that goes underneath it, and helps you see what’s actually true for you.

That process is completely private. The Decision-Making Method was built specifically for spouses in an affair; the structured inventory that helps you finally get clear enough to decide for yourself.

You’ve given this enough time to know that time alone isn’t producing clarity. The right process will.

Comment or DM me CLEAR and I’ll send you the link to The Decision-Making Method so you can begin.

You’re not alone, and you don’t have to figure this out on your own.

06/11/2026

Take personal responsibility, be the adult, allow their feelings, be humble, and be age appropriately honest.

Model courage and maturity in addressing hard things. Love hard, stay the path, seek to repair with patience and consistency, and use it all to know yourself better, so that the people you love can know you better, too.

DM me UNSTUCK to start the process of knowing yourself better with my bestselling guide, GET UNSTUCK: Uncover the Real Reasons for Your Affair.

When we have clarity about our behaviors, we can communicate them. This is the power of doing the work. This is what it means to have the power to heal and move forward.

You got this. 💪

06/10/2026

For my full video on “The WRONG Question You’re Asking About Your Affair,” DM or Comment “YouTube.”

The fear of losing your children is one of the deepest fears a person in an affair carries. I hear it every single day i...
06/10/2026

The fear of losing your children is one of the deepest fears a person in an affair carries. I hear it every single day in my work with people who feel completely in limbo between their marriage and their affair. 

- What if they find out? 
- What if they never forgive me? 
- What if this is the thing that breaks my relationship with them?

That fear needs to be faced directly. It’s visceral, and it’s SO important.

And here’s what I also know from experience – that handling this decision, and resolving the limbo with personal insight, integrity, and a depth of knowledge about who you are that you’re able to speak to, makes the complete difference when it comes to actually STRENGTHENING your relationship with your kids in all of this.

When you gather the personal courage to make choices from genuine personal clarity, from real self-knowledge you’ve never allowed yourself to fully realize, rather than panic, it gives you the best chance of keeping what matters most. And even forging a better relationship with everyone around you.

The Decision-Making Method is the guided inventory that helps you make it that way. Comment or DM me CLARITY and I’ll send you the link to start now.

It’s helped so many people do the work in a way they can finally share with the people who matter to them, because they’re finally clear inside of themselves. I want that for you, too.
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You’re not alone, and you don’t have to figure this out on your own.

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06/10/2026

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06/10/2026

“Is your hair missing?” He asked me one day as I stood in the bathroom.
“What? What are you talking about?”
He pointed and I turned my head to look — there it was, a large, quarter sized round chunk of hair, just gone.

Why did I have alopecia?

Months earlier, I’d also stopped being able to walk without tremendous pain. I began to use a cane that my neighbor, a PT, lent me, so could get around the house. I was 32.

There were other senses I refused to know more about, for fear of what they truly meant.

My sense of smell — it was the smell of someone else on him.

My intuitive sinking feeling that things weren’t making sense, that our marriage had become confusing, that we weren’t okay.

But I had to keep going, we had a whole life.

And yet, I was slowly falling apart.

Here’s what I learned — that our body tells us so much, and it does that to protect us.

My body was alerting me; but I shoved it down, because I didn’t know what else to do.

I took the external information (what my husband was saying to me) as the answers, instead of what my body was saying to me (that something was very wrong).

Now, years of healing have shown me what’s true — that my body is what I listen to first.

My body is where I get my best information, the information I listen to, I honor, and I ask myself for more about.

It’s a practice, not a point of arrival. But healing from betrayal trauma and attachment trauma requires us to attune.

Self attunement, that holy grail, is what leads to self-trust.

And self trust? Baby, that’s gold.

If you’re dealing with infidelity, I want you to know that you’re not alone ♥️.

recovery

Most people in an affair won’t say this out loud, but they feel it every single day, and it’s exactly what keeps them co...
06/09/2026

Most people in an affair won’t say this out loud, but they feel it every single day, and it’s exactly what keeps them completely stuck:

“I can’t lose my family. And I also can’t lose my affair partner.” 

Both of those things are true at the same time, and yet to admit it even feels impossible.

That pull — that desire to not lose or change anything you care about — that’s why being in an affair makes everything harder, and not easier.

But understanding it (really understanding it) – is what makes a conscious decision possible at all. You need to understand what your real feelings are showing and telling you.

The fear you feel about losing anything on either side is what’s keeping you stuck. 

The Decision-Making Method is the guided inventory that helps you get underneath the impossible feeling and find what’s actually true for you.

Comment or DM me CLARITY and I’ll send you the link so you can begin getting clear instead of living in limbo.

You’re not alone, and you don’t have to figure this out on your own.

06/09/2026

An affair changes the brain, and those brain changes alter your ability to see your marriage AND your affair clearly.

It’s neuroscience.

The chemicals that flood our neural pathways when we enter into the excitement, the newness, and the aliveness of an affair literally get us high.

The high is like wearing drunk goggles as we go through the world, aka “affair goggles.”

Our affair is on a pedestal, and our marriage dims and diminishes.

Our affair partner is godlike, and our spouse is an afterthought, an inconvenience, or worse, becomes the “wrong choice” that we made in error years ago.

A case begins to mount against our spouse, built in the subtle beliefs that help us reinforce the value of our affair and affair partner, justify the affair, and support the best qualities in the affair partner.

Our ability to see or evaluate anything clearly isn’t sober. It’s not trustworthy because it shouldn’t be — it’s being looked at through a lens that isn’t clear.

We may THINK it’s clearer than ever; but the truth is, it’s not.

It simply can’t be, because of the chemicals, the addictive and trauma bonding nature of the interval style of the affair relationship, and SO much more.

You NEED to know this before you discard your marriage, and you need to know this before you follow your affair blindly into a next chapter.

Or, simply put, you need to give yourself the chance to remove your affair goggles and see things more clearly again, before your affair deteriorates your relationships, or worse, is discovered and traumatizes everyone in your world.

DM me CLARITY for the program that guides you step-by-step through an honest evaluation of your marriage versus your affair… without the brain altered stories that pulse through you on autopilot,

The life you’ve built for yourself is way too precious to keep playing with fire. DM me CLARITY and I’ll send the link right over.

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06/09/2026

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