Lauren LaRusso Coaching

Lauren LaRusso Coaching Transforming the experience of infidelity into the catalyst for personal growth and change for all.
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08/15/2026

For my full video on “When GOOD Marriages End With An Affair,” DM or Comment “YouTube.”

08/15/2026

And the person looking back at you in the mirror is someone you’re still trying to figure out.

Here’s what I want you to hear: the disorientation you’re feeling is what happens when your actions and your self-image stop matching. That gap is painful — and it’s also really important information.

The affair surfaced something worth understanding — about who you are, what you actually want, and how honestly you’ve been living.

That’s not a comfortable thing to look at. It’s also the most important thing you could do right now.

I’m Lauren LaRusso — a licensed psychotherapist and infidelity specialist with 15 years of clinical experience working with every side of the affair triangle.

I created the Decision-Making Method because the experience of a person who is deciding between their marriage and their affair is one of the most underserved, but critical and life-changing experiences anyone can face — and you deserve reality-based, knowledgeable, and judgment-free support that actually helps you move forward.

DM me the word CLARITY and I’ll send you the link.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

08/14/2026

“This affair will make it clearer, easier to leave.” Not true. It makes it harder, more confusing, more self-doubting, and more complex, not less.

An affair can be a stabilizer to a marriage because now all needs are being met, reducing motivation to go toward problems or their solutions.

So instead of being a “warm transfer” out, it’s like sitting in quicksand.

The person having the affair does not want to continue the double life, but finds it extremely difficult to actually end their marriage. This is in large part because the pain and discomfort in the marriage is diminished by the affair itself. This can be surprising and distressing!

While the person says they intend to end their marriage, they don’t because they don’t have to. Talking about ending the marriage keeps the affair partner on the hook; but meanwhile it’s the affair that is keeping the marriage humming along.

I designed The Decision-Making Method to move spouses in an affair from uncertainty and making a decision they later regret, to clarity and commitment around their decision. DM me CLARITY to begin.

DM or comment ‘LETTER’ for the full Letters to Lauren on Substack.
08/12/2026

DM or comment ‘LETTER’ for the full Letters to Lauren on Substack.

08/12/2026

What you’re avoiding, or running FROM by having your affair is what you’ll need to move toward in order to grow.

Without having the insight and courage to lean into what you’ve been escaping, you’ll stay stuck and risk repeating that, regardless of who you’re with.

Whatever you’re running toward — that’s also something you need to identify. Because what that is needs to be built stronger inside yourself. Intimacy. Connection. Peace. Worth.

Whatever it is, the escaping from and the escaping two are your huge windows into parts of yourself that are asking for you to do the work that’s going to lead to the version of yourself you can trust.

It’s actually not as hard as it seems. It lies in awareness, curiosity, self-honesty, and vulnerability.

It’s what I walk you through inside the Decision-Making Method. DM me CLARITY to begin.

My world got smaller before it got bigger. That’s not a detour on this road — that is the road. Every Tuesday I send Let...
08/11/2026

My world got smaller before it got bigger. That’s not a detour on this road — that is the road.

Every Tuesday I send Letters from Lauren: a personal letter about what I’m noticing, learning, and thinking about after 15 years inside this work.

This week’s is about the life on the other side of losing the one you knew. Comment or DM me LIST and I’ll send it to you.

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