Naples Integrated Recovery

10/15/2026

Being hurt in a relationship can give us a dangerous sense of permission. Suddenly, the sarcasm, resentment, criticism, and punishment feel justified because we believe the other person started it.

That’s offending from the victim position—using legitimate pain to excuse behavior that damages the relationship.

A seemingly ordinary argument over sandy beach chairs illustrates how quickly we can become consumed with what someone did to us while overlooking what we’re doing to them.

This episode explores how that pattern develops, why it keeps couples stuck, and what it takes to reclaim accountability without dismissing the original hurt.

🎙️ New Episode: Offending from the Victim Position

🎧 Listen on Spotify:
https://open.spotify.com/episode/7AKsxC6xXeMCXZu769kuDw?si=bmI00-5gThSeqpGB8_T9Mg&utm_source=copy-link

10/15/2026

This episode looks at what happens when hurt becomes a relational stance—when a legitimate frustration starts giving us permission to lecture, control, withdraw, retaliate, or keep pushing long after the original problem has been addressed. Drawing from Terry Real and Pia Mellody, I explore offend...

10/11/2026

There's a dragon in the house. Everyone can see it. Nobody wants to talk about it.
In families affected by addiction, people gradually learn to adapt to the problem. They change their routines, avoid certain conversations, and take on responsibilities to keep the peace. Eventually, those patterns can become so familiar that they continue long after sobriety.
My latest article and podcast explore Jack Kent's *There's No Such Thing as a Dragon* and what it teaches us about denial, family dynamics, and recovery.

📖 Read the article:
https://www.naplesintegratedrecovery.com/articlesandinsights/dragon

🎧 Listen to the podcast:
https://open.spotify.com/episode/3WX1SVg4bxoo52i6UWyn0S?si=o-FFG27PR_mh12xXY5TkJg

Brian Granneman, LMHC, explores how families adapt to addiction, secrecy, and denial. Addiction counseling in Naples, FL, at Naples Integrated Recovery.

10/11/2026

This episode uses bibliotherapy and the children’s story There’s No Such Thing as a Dragon to explore how addiction can gradually reshape an entire family system. Addiction may involve alcohol, drugs, misuse of prescription medication, gambling, po*******hy or compulsive sexual behavior, workaho...

10/08/2026

Po*******hy can gradually shift from occasional sexual stimulation into a way of managing stress, escaping uncomfortable emotions, or feeling in control. For some people, that pattern begins affecting sexual desire, arousal with a partner, intimacy, and relationship satisfaction. In this episode, I explore how compulsive p**n use develops, when it becomes a problem, and how to recognize the consequences without shame or moralizing.

🎧 Listen here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4PrfPDnhJ2mNCD0C50vjP9

10/08/2026

P**n addiction and compulsive p**n use can affect sexual desire, relationships, intimacy, and emotional regulation. This episode looks at how po*******hy can shift from occasional use into something tied to stress relief, ma********on, secrecy, control, and increasingly specific sexual stimulation.....

10/04/2026

What happens when you still love your partner but no longer feel sexually attracted to them? Loss of desire in long-term relationships can involve pressure, mismatched libido, performance anxiety, po*******hy, aging, weight changes, resentment, attachment, and sometimes a simple change in attraction...

10/03/2026

Monkey mind is that nonstop mental chatter—worrying, rehearsing, judging, predicting, overthinking. In this episode, I talk about why the mind does this and how mindfulness helps us notice thoughts without automatically following every one of them.

Listen here: https://podcast.naplesintegratedrecovery.com/e/monkey-mind-why-your-thoughts-never-stop-and-what-actually-helps

10/01/2026

“My problems are serious. Do I need a doctor, a psychologist, to really get to the root of them?”

That depends on what you need help with.

A doctorate tells you something about training. Specialty, experience, and the kind of psychotherapy someone actually practices tell you a lot more about whether they’re the right fit.

I break it down in this last episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/7iafglCKqeE4Ymdqjte9W5?si=Q40aZVosSOGIPNiJE0byFA&utm_source=copy-link

10/01/2026

Therapist vs psychologist vs psychiatrist can get confusing quickly, especially when your mental health problems feel serious. The highest credential does not automatically mean the deepest expertise in addiction, trauma, couples therapy, OCD, ADHD, autism, or whatever problem brought you to treatme...