03/18/2026
If you’ve heard of EFT for couples but aren’t sure what it actually is — this one’s for you.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is one of the most well-researched approaches to couples therapy — and it’s at the heart of how we work with couples at Touchstone Psychology.
When we work with couples, we focus on:
✓ Understanding the cycle of disconnection that keeps you stuck
✓ Going to where the real pain lives — in the body, in the moment between you and your partner
✓ Helping both partners express what they’re really feeling underneath the anger, frustration and defensive as
✓ Creating new, connecting emotional experiences together — in real time in the room
EFT works because it prioritizes our deep, primal need to feel securely connected to the people we love. When that bond feels threatened, we react by protesting and fighting for connection with anger or shutting down and protecting ourselves from disconnection.
EFT helps couples recognize that pattern — and change it by going deeper and learning to share and respond to more vulnerable experiences and feelings. The research shows it’s effective for most couples, including those in significant distress.
Do you have questions about EFT? Drop them in the comments.
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