The Wave Counseling

The Wave Counseling Therapist for the disorganized, overachieving, anxious, and burned out millenial and Gen-Z woman. New Yorks Clinical ADHD Therapist for Women

In my personal journey through therapy, I've been profoundly impacted by feeling truly heard and understood. This inspired me to pursue a career as a therapist, aiming to offer others the same safe haven to express themselves authentically. As a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and certified clinical provider for ADHD in New York, I founded The Wave Counseling, a therapy practice committed to supp

orting women across the state. My expertise spans a diverse range of clients, with a specialized focus on women's mental health. Acknowledging the unique struggles women encounter, particularly in their 20s and 30s, I provide tailored, holistic support to address their specific needs and challenges at every stage of life.

Part 5 because apparently the first 4 hit a nerve in the best way.These are not rules we sat down and agreed to. They a...
04/15/2026

Part 5 because apparently the first 4 hit a nerve in the best way.
These are not rules we sat down and agreed to. They are things we figured out over time by paying attention to what actually helps versus what makes things harder. A lot of it comes down to one person understanding what the other needs before they even have to ask.
What is something unspoken that works in your relationship? Drop it below.
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If you felt personally attacked by at least three of these, hi 👋, same.The AuDHD experience is genuinely its own thing a...
04/08/2026

If you felt personally attacked by at least three of these, hi 👋, same.
The AuDHD experience is genuinely its own thing and it doesn’t always fit neatly into what people describe for ADHD or autism separately. Both can be true, and both can contradict each other, constantly.
Which one hit the hardest? Drop the number in the comments.
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The ADHD conversation online is often focused on what’s hard, and a lot of it genuinely is. But I’ve been thinking about...
04/01/2026

The ADHD conversation online is often focused on what’s hard, and a lot of it genuinely is. But I’ve been thinking about the parts of my brain I would actually miss if I could turn them off.
It took me a long time to get here. For a while, listing the “good parts” felt like something people did to make the hard parts sound more manageable. The closer I looked though, some of it is actually just good.
✨What’s something about your ADHD brain that you secretly kind of love? Drop it in the comments✨
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Autism and social anxiety, two of the most commonly conflated experiences I see, both in my clinical work and in my own ...
03/24/2026

Autism and social anxiety, two of the most commonly conflated experiences I see, both in my clinical work and in my own life.
The behavior on the surface can look identical. Avoiding eye contact, rehearsing conversations, leaving social situations feeling completely wiped out. What differs is what is actually driving it underneath, and that distinction matters a lot when it comes to getting the right support.
A lot of autistic women spend years in treatment for social anxiety without anyone looking deeper. If the anxiety-focused approaches never quite got to the root of it for you, this might be worth sitting with.
✨Follow for more content on autism and AuDHD in women✨

AuDHD in women, specifically the part where you are highly capable and genuinely struggling at the same time, is somethi...
03/19/2026

AuDHD in women, specifically the part where you are highly capable and genuinely struggling at the same time, is something I don’t think gets talked about honestly enough.
The paradox that shows up most for me is being someone who thinks deeply about how to support my own brain while also being the person who can’t consistently follow through on any of it. I have designed more systems than I can count. I understand exactly why they would help. And I still abandon them.
That gap between insight and ex*****on is one of the most frustrating parts of living with ADHD and autism together, and it took me a long time to stop treating it as a character flaw.
If any of these resonated, follow for more honest content on AuDHD in women.
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Every relationship has “unspoken rules,” but I think neurodivergent couples end up creating them more intentionally.Not ...
03/11/2026

Every relationship has “unspoken rules,” but I think neurodivergent couples end up creating them more intentionally.
Not because the relationship is harder, but because we learn pretty quickly that the default expectations don’t always work for our nervous systems.
Most of these developed over time through trial, error, and a lot of “okay this system clearly doesn’t work.”
If you’re in a neurodivergent relationship, I’m curious what rules you’ve figured out that make things run more smoothly.
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Most advice about procrastination assumes the issue is discipline or motivation.For many people with ADHD, the issue is ...
03/04/2026

Most advice about procrastination assumes the issue is discipline or motivation.
For many people with ADHD, the issue is task initiation. The brain gets stuck at the starting line, even when you genuinely want to do the thing.
Strategies that tend to work better are the ones that reduce friction lowering the starting point, changing the environment, creating external structure, or adding stimulation.
It’s less about “trying harder” and more about adjusting the conditions that help your brain engage.
Save this for the next time you’re staring at a task you want to start but can’t seem to begin.
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AuDHD burnout doesn’t usually arrive all at once. It builds gradually, after months (or years) of adapting, masking, pus...
02/26/2026

AuDHD burnout doesn’t usually arrive all at once. It builds gradually, after months (or years) of adapting, masking, pushing through, and managing more than your system comfortably can. There isn’t always a breaking point. Sometimes it just feels like everything takes more effort than it used to.

Because it’s subtle, it’s easy to mislabel. To call it laziness. To call it inconsistency. To assume you just need to try harder. But burnout shifts capacity. And when capacity shifts, the solution isn’t self-pressure, it’s recalibration.

If this sounds familiar, it may be worth taking that seriously.
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Autistic meltdowns are widely misunderstood, especially in adults who learned early how to mask. When someone has spent ...
02/23/2026

Autistic meltdowns are widely misunderstood, especially in adults who learned early how to mask. When someone has spent years pushing through discomfort, overriding sensory strain, and prioritizing appearing “fine,” it makes sense that the system eventually reaches capacity.
A meltdown isn’t a strategy. It isn’t manipulation. It isn’t immaturity. It’s a nervous system exceeding what it can process

What often compounds the experience isn’t just the overload itself, but the aftermath, the self-criticism and the fear of being misread

Accurate language matters. It shifts the focus from character judgments to capacity and regulation.
Save this if it adds clarity, or share it with someone who still misunderstands what meltdowns actually are.
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AuDHD isn’t inconsistency or poor self-management it’s the ongoing task of responding to two different nervous system pu...
02/11/2026

AuDHD isn’t inconsistency or poor self-management it’s the ongoing task of responding to two different nervous system pulls at once.

When that complexity gets flattened into ideas like “just find balance” or “stick to a routine,” people end up blaming themselves for something that isn’t a character issue.

Naming what’s actually happening doesn’t fix everything, but it does move the responsibility out of self-criticism and into understanding the system you’re working with.

If this put words to something you’ve struggled to explain, you’re in the right place.

2016 was pageant coded in the best ways. The year of chunky necklaces, nature was aesthetic and cool. The year I walked ...
01/16/2026

2016 was pageant coded in the best ways. The year of chunky necklaces, nature was aesthetic and cool. The year I walked into a CrossFit gym impulsively. Always slightly overdressed, was always on the go and everything in between.
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Hi, and welcome if you’re new here.I’m Bailey. I’m a therapist who works primarily with women with ADHD and AuDHD especi...
01/14/2026

Hi, and welcome if you’re new here.
I’m Bailey. I’m a therapist who works primarily with women with ADHD and AuDHD especially those who look like they’re holding it together on the outside while feeling overwhelmed, mentally tired, or constantly “on” on the inside.
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A lot of the people I work with are thoughtful, capable, and deeply self-aware and also exhausted from masking, overthinking, and trying to be less sensitive, less emotional, or less “too much.”
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The way I work is very real and very human. Therapy with me isn’t about fixing you or pushing you to perform. It’s about understanding how your brain works, naming what’s actually hard, and building support that fits your life instead of fighting against it.
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If you’ve ever felt like therapy didn’t quite make sense for you or that you had to explain yourself too much you’re not alone. And you’re probably exactly who I had in mind when I started doing this work.
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I’m really glad you’re here.
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