08/12/2026
🍑 AUGUST IS A**L S*X MONTH
So let’s talk about a**l s*x without shame, assumptions, or misinformation.
A**l pleasure isn’t inherently gay, straight, kinky, submissive, dominant, or anything else. People of many genders and s*xual orientations enjoy it, and plenty of people don’t. Both are completely valid.
A few things I want you to know as a s*x therapist:
🍑 Consent comes first.
A**l s*x should be something you genuinely want, not something you tolerate to keep a partner happy.
💧 Lubrication matters.
Unlike the va**na, the a**s doesn’t naturally lubricate sufficiently for pe*******on. Generous lubrication can reduce friction and make the experience more comfortable.
🐢 Slow is s*xy.
The a**l sphincter is muscular tissue. Relaxation, communication, patience, and gradual progression matter. Pain is not something you have to “push through.”
🦠 STI prevention matters, too.
Barrier methods such as condoms can reduce STI transmission. Changing condoms or thoroughly cleaning toys before moving them between partners or different body areas helps prevent the transfer of bacteria.
🧼 You do not need to make your body surgically clean.
Basic hygiene is often enough. If someone chooses to do**he, gentle and limited cleaning is preferable to aggressive or repeated douching, which can irritate delicate tissue.
🧠 And perhaps most importantly: a**l s*x is not a requirement for a fulfilling s*x life.
You can love it.
You can be curious about it.
You can decide it’s not for you.
You can change your mind.
S*xual confidence isn’t about doing everything.
It’s about knowing what brings you pleasure, knowing your boundaries, and feeling empowered to communicate both.
Dr. Lee Phillips, Ed.D.
S*x & Relationship Therapist
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