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After the rainbows are put away, let’s remember what REALLY matters. Will you show up for us when the time comes? ***rw...
07/02/2026

After the rainbows are put away, let’s remember what REALLY matters. Will you show up for us when the time comes? ***rwellbeing 🌈

06/27/2026

When I first moved out of Latin America and decided to actually start being more authentic with people, I was still carrying a lot of shame with me. But something shifted when I found

I first saw it on The Soup (unc). It was season four while it was airing. I watched every episode available and then went back and watched every season before it. And since then every season after.

Growing up, I didn’t know any q***r people. Pretty much everything I heard about us was negative. So like a lot of q***r kids, I found my way online. . . and (even then, let’s be real). I remember all of them releasing their coming out videos and me watching them and feeling this weird mix of excitement and grief, like I could see a door but couldn’t reach it. I couldn’t explain it.

Drag Race was the first time I saw q***r people being q***r. Not hiding or explaining themselves. Just existing, competing, being ridiculous and stupid and messy and human. It was my first time seeing q***r joy and q***r excitement.

I could unclench. I could be silly. I could sit in wonder at what a queen was going to walk out in and if it was going to meet the category. For the first time I felt like I was in a room with my community, even if it was pre-recorded and from my bedroom. I felt hope.

That’s what representation does though. It gives people proof that there are other people out there just like them who are being celebrated not in spite of but just because of who they are.

So thank you and for so many years of hope!

I’m still a huge fan.

💜


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Video source: on Youtube. Video title: 23. Q***r Theory and Gender Performativity
Speaker: Professor Paul Fry for the class “Intro to Theory of Literature”

06/25/2026

First of all, she kind of ate him up with that one. 🥴

The context of this clip is worth talking about too though. In this interview from the 1980s, Cher Boisvert shares the story of how she learned her husband (now ex-husband) is gay. She talks about how at first she was confused and hurt about the situation, but she ultimately realized it wasn’t a reflection of her desirability or worth. Her husband just happened to only be attracted to men.

Cher goes on to say that she knows a lot of women in her same situation who hate their ex-husbands for it, and she understands them, but that she personally still loves her ex and has a deep affection for him.

The truth is, we rarely talk about the people on the other side of these coming out stories. It’s a situation that carries mixed emotions for almost everyone involved. You want to celebrate someone finally getting to be open about who they are and live more authentically. But then there’s this other person whose whole life just got turned upside down, and a lot of the time is left to pick up the pieces alone.

In the book “When Your Spouse Comes Out” by Carol Grever, who lived this situation herself, she calls what these spouses go through complicated grief. Normal grief, like when someone dies, is public. People show up. They bring casseroles. But complicated grief is usually wrapped in shame and secrecy and isolation. They have to grieve the marriage, the future they pictured, the friends who suddenly vanish, and sometimes their own sense of what was even real.

And even with all of this context, the coming out was not wrong! In Cher’s case, her ex-husband deserves to live as his authentic self, and she also deserves to be supported and feel held through grieving the life she thought she’d get to live. Both things get to be true.
Anyway, holding space for everybody in this one. ☝️🤏

Footage taken from on youtube, and specifically from SPKR: Evolution of the Gay Dancefloor

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(Ngl I was watching Grace & Frankie before writing this. Love that show. I’m definitely more of a Frankie.) 🥴🫶

***rmentalhealth

06/24/2026

This clip is decades old and it’s still so relevant.

For so long the bar was one of the only places we could be ourselves, hold a hand, feel like we belonged somewhere…

But that safety came bundled with all kinds of s*ubstances, not only because that’s where they lived, but also because they allowed us to feel less shame about who we are and what we do.

To drink or use just to feel okay in our own skin. To get a few hours of relief from a world that has been feeling a lot more unsafe lately.

Leaning on something to cope with life and emotions makes complete sense. It also makes sense that you deserve spaces where you can feel at peace in your body without having to escape it first.

If you’re struggling with substances, you deserve support and not shame. You don’t go at it alone 🫶

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Footage taken from on youtube, and specifically from SPKR: Evolution of the Gay Dancefloor

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many of us got really good at being whoever kept us safe from being seen. impressive, chill, assertive, low maintenance,...
06/22/2026

many of us got really good at being whoever kept us safe from being seen. impressive, chill, assertive, low maintenance, pleasing… whatever the room needed. never actually us. being fully seen and being fully vulnerable never really felt safe.

you deserve love and compassion exactly as you are. and you deserve to be able to give it too. both things.

format inspired by Margeaux Feldman 💜 go follow them.

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drop a 💜 in the comments so people struggling can see this.it’s all “q***r mental health matters” until...* someone is u...
06/21/2026

drop a 💜 in the comments so people struggling can see this.
it’s all “q***r mental health matters” until...
* someone is using s*x, subst*nces, or any kind of numbing just to feel okay for five minutes
* someone is st*rving themselves chasing a body the community told them they had to have
* someone pushes you away the exact second they actually get close
it’s easy to support when it’s Pride flags and rainbow quotes. it gets harder when it shows up as avoidance or long term struggle that requires long term support.
but that is when it matters most.
this is what years of stigma, discrimination, and minority stress do to a person. it was never your fault the world was cruel, and you STILL deserve love and compassion. always.
q***r mental health matters. all of it. even when it’s messy. 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️
concept inspired by happiness project . save this, and follow ***rWellbeing for more.
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06/21/2026

For the LGBs wanting to ditch the T 👀 meet Sylvia Rivera, the trans woman who put herself on the front lines of the movement we’re all benefiting from. Sylvia Rivera and Marsha P. Johnson, two trans women of color, were part of the Stonewall uprising and founded STAR to house homeless q***r youth. Sylvia lost her job, her apartment, and her safety for gay liberation and in 1973 she was booed off the stage by a crowd for asking them not to abandon trans people. Sound familiar? You don’t get to keep the progress and disown the trailblazers. NO STEPS BACK. There’s no LGB without the T. 🏳️‍⚧️ ***r

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